Hi everyone. New here. I’ve been gambling for the past 8 years off and on. I’ve won big and became debt free because of it. But it didn’t last long. I got an even bigger buzz and wasted it all. Long story short I got hit with depression after becoming a new mum living miles away from family with a partner who gave me very little support in all ways. He’d go and spend money on what he wanted and I’d be left picking up the pieces. You get the picture. I hit rock bottom 2 years ago and walked out. We sorted our differences but one thing I could never do was talk about my problem. He barely understood anxiety and depression. He just doesn’t ‘get’ it. Anyway he knew I had some debt but not the full extent. Things were plodding ok. Then I hit a wall again, covid came and my depression soared and I went back to gambling again. I hate myself for it. But I’m not going to work on my road to recovery. I still can’t talk to him which I know most will say I should but I can’t go through the disappointment, shame, lack of understanding and potential control of finances. I can’t do this anymore though. I’ve ruined a weekend because I’ve been so depressed about my debts. Trying to pay them and have money of my own. Which I have failed at and now panicking about money for this month. I’ve got back in touch with payplan to set up a DMP and start taking back control.
Good Evening Leolion8231
Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your experience with us.
Becoming a new mum can be as well as one of the most amazing times of your life, it can also be stressful and lead to depression and even. Were you able to seek any professional support for this?
Well done for taking the steps to contact PayPlan a take back control of your finances. There are steps that you can take to help you to self exclude from gambling such as online blocks as well as bank blocks that you can put in place.
You are more than welcome to call the helpline on 0808 802 0133 or come through on a webchat where we can go through support that we can offer.
In the meantime, I hope that you are doing well and encourage you to keep posting.
I wish you all the best.
Ricki
Forum admin
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