Hi,
36 year old woman with 2 young daughters and a fantastic partner. However we both have gambling addictions. I haven't gambled for over 6 years but feel like I want to lately. Myself and my partner have been arguing a lot and I don't know if that's what's contributing to it but it keeps popping into my head. He hasn't gambled for a couple of months but I'm sure he must be struggling too as I remember what's it like in those early days. I try to be there for him and he has come to me on a couple of occasions lately when he's been tempted to gamble but where we haven't been getting on great I feel like he maybe thinks I'm not there for him anymore. I feel like I'm strong enough to not give in to the temptations that I keep feeling but can never be 100% sure as any gambler or ex gambler would know. Bit of a pointless post I suppose just felt like I needed to vent somewhere and didn't want to put it on my partner.
Hi Spectrum.
No post on here is pointless. It is you and how you feel so that is all that matters.
When you gambled how did you gamble? Did you go into a book makers or did you bet online?
All we can do is our best and strive to be the best we can be.
Think about the money you haven't wasted on gambling over the last 6 years, and the memories you have created and stored.
Your partner may be having a rough time but talk to him about it. He may need a shoulder and is to ashamed to admit it. 🙂
CJ.
Hi,
Thanks for replying. When I was gambling it was online, started off playing poker and quickly got into online casinos, roulette and blackjack mainly then slot machines. Had it under control for a while or so I thought. Ended up losing thousands, chasing wins and feeling the usual misery of a gambler. Managed to really sort my problem out when I had my daughter. Relapsed when she was six months old but not anywhere near as bad as before. Last year my partner told me about banning yourself from gambling online which I did and I'm very greatful especially in the last couple of weeks where I've been thinking of gambling. I have a small baby that I'm at home with so I'm not tempted by bookmakers and never have been.
I spoke to my partner last night and told him how I felt and that I'd been thinking of gambling and he was great about it, then we chatted about him. He too has been thinking about gambling but says he hasn't been tempted to do it. I'm so proud of how far he has come but I worry too. Tried to support him the best I can, just have to hope it's enough.
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