dont no where to start with a 'forum' never thought I would have to do something like this, recognised I had a proble couple years ago, wish I would have sorted my self out earlier as I'm 22 and already have £5000 debts to my name, was introduced by a ex work college to poker 'B*****d' where I was never off, as I was winning all the time, then I started on side games 'slots' where I would hammer £100's in the matter of a couple hours, then I just stopped. That was 3 years ago, for 6 months on I was only really hitting scratch cards which wasn't to bad, then 6 months on my mate was winning a hell of lot on football bets! So me going in bookies having a £10 every weekend for abit of fun. Where I introduced my self to FOBT where I seen a fella win £2250 in about 10 minuites, he came off I went on and bagged myself £700, was incredible till I lost half of it! Then it's literally been a blur ever since I can't honestly tell you the wins and losses there have been that many, then before Christmas, I lost 250 when I really needed it and broke down to family and girlfriend where the didn't understand 'problem gambling' but managed to learn it, where I didn't gamble with there support for 3 months, beginning of March I decided and asked the girlfriend if I could have a football bet where she allowed me to have £3, I won £100 I was over the moon, then I literally went on a 6/7 football bet winning streak, about a £1000 up until last week when I blew most of it and began hiding all this from her. I want to give up before I fall in as deep as I did before, I'm so scared and nervous, I have sorted my debts with step change, joined here with the support of my girlfriend who set my page up! And contacted beacon for therapy as I want to live life again, unreal to think I'm 22 and going through this, u hope I come out the other side a better man as I'm destroying my relationship with my wonderful girlfriend, wish me luck and good luck to any one going through the same thing đŸ™‚
Good luck Manchester93, it really is a tough habit to kick. Sounds like you have a supportive girlfriend. She won't give you money again. Look for distractions, come on here and talk. Best of luck, you're young, kick it in to touch now and you have a long future to look forward to.
I hope she doesn't, I'm reckless with money, I feel very confident in kicking it this time, just so scared for the relapse! Will try my best thanks for the support.
Hi Manchester 93, jools1322 sums it up in the first line. It's a really tough habit to kick, and it is believe me. I have been trying for 5/6 years through various methods, if you read on here, you will discover the methods. But you have time on your side, when you have debt through gambling it really is time to stop. Make sure your relationship is the most important thing in your life, do not let gambling take that very special thing 'love' away from you. I have had to go away for three weeks to break my addication to roulette, don't let your life become as bad as mine has from gambling.
It's roulette which I got hooked on, I really have though about taking a hammer to the Fobts, I wish you all the best and believe me I really am going to try my best to beat this, a lot of people say I have time on my hands, hope the therapy of beacon will help if anyone has advice on what they actually do and thanks for taking time out of your day to have a read I appreciate it.
Its great she has brought you here tell her there is support for her on the friends and family section.
As Jools said she needs to take over financial control for you a while at least
You need to SE from all bookies I have done a thread which I will post a link to below which explains how you can do this
You sound like you want to stop so I would suggest trying to find out why you gamble counselling and GA are great for this about 30% of the guys in my GA groups are under 25
Keep sharing on here people will helps you and your girlfriend
KTF
Thanks KFT, she really is getting involved and has took tha cards of me, which actually took a weight of my shoulders having no access to cash, also I am self excluded from l*******s but they didn't stop me the other week, they didn't say a word when I was feeding the machines, not even when I collected a rare big win! Which it me on a down spiral, information on beacon trust, they offered me therapy if anyone knows what they go through ? Would a trip to my GP help?
Here's the link anyhow. Might be speaking to the bookies you went to let them know so they can be more vigilant for you.
http://www.gamcare.org.uk/forum/self-excluding-bookies-over-phone
It's great you have her support use it wisely but she will new to support as well tell her to check out the Friends and family. I wish u well bud
Thank you!!
Welcome to recovery Manchester.
You've jumped the first hurdle in sharing.
By sharing your history other members can share your pain.
Have a look over other folks diaries where they have also shared there tale of woe.
There is a beacon at the end of the tunnel, you need to be honest with yourself and others in here who will advise the best steps to take as they've shared there story and by sharing and by being open and honest the beacon is getting nearer.
Hi Manchester welcome to the forum, wow you have been through the mill. I hope you can find the much needed help and support throughout the forum.
Best of luck with your journey
Hi there and welcome to the 'forum'. Firstly it's great you have realised you have a problem and are seeking help. Secondly, I have to admit I find it worrying when I see the a compulsive gambler mentioning sums of money won or lost, or betting odds. If you seriously want to become gamble free you must forget about what you could have won because the truth is you won NOTHING and that is why you are here. In fact, that is why we are all here; because we were rubbish at gambling due to the fact that we could never walk away, in spite of big wins and even bigger losses.
I wish you well in your journey but, in order to succeed you must forget about past losses.
Welcome...you are young...don't go any further down the disastrous gambling road...beleive me the journey will get a while lot worse if you don't seek help and come up with a plan
The moneys gone...it won't come back...the bookies...casinos...online sites...scratchcards etc have all banked your hard earned money and will continue to do so as long as you keep gambling...all sounds a bit harsh...a bit 'uncarring'...it's not...it's just how it is....good luck
Thanks all for support, sorting therapy out today going to call beacon trust, free therapy, any info for what's involved?
Being open and honest is the most important factor manchester.
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