a new way of thinking

Hi E

Hope things are settling down for you after lots of trauma. Maybe things are turning the corner as I'm sure they will if they haven't.

Take care

Thankyou Rach and Smiler.

Good day/bad day

Bad...still struggling with being ill thumping headache all day and back to work :0(

Good....Housing officer text me to let me know the extent of my rent arrears as i couldnt work it out from the statement they sent me it said £1000 new this was wrong.

It is £27.47 result. Have paid this today now no arrears.Thought it was a couple of hundred so ive paid more off than i thought :0)

Another debt paid off whoop whoop.

Hopefully smiler this is the corner i need .

Stay Strong

E xx

Hiya Elizabeth,

Whoop Whoop, that is fabulous news 🙂

Hopefully you will be feeling better soon too and get rid of that headache...

Onwards ! xoxo

Del x

I wish this forum had like buttons just like FB, as I would give it one big press.

Take care E and you know where the winners are, we are here.

Take care

pressing the like button too E.....big thumbs up....

Thanks for posting hun...just back from a meeting and feel much better...had a slip today and the resentful thoughts i would drink on came in ...glad Valentines is over...

Just getting impatient with myself as want to be over all tbhis stuff but its taking longer than I thought..sitting in sludge when all i want to do is run away ..(with dot...littlest Hobo style)....thanks for massive hugs too..needed them today xxxxxx night night hun (((((((((((E))))))))))))) wuffski xx

Yo TW, Biggest grin iv'e had on this mug All day your last post..

Nice hai that winning feeling, many more to come for you and H(junior)LUFCs and thats whats it all about...

T/C and watching exmug

Hi Elizabeth just had a quick read through your post I have not been on for a few days, looks like you have had/still got what I have 🙁 big hugs I feel you pain hehe but great news about the arrears 🙂 🙂

hope you are feeling ok today x

Thanks Elizabeth for popping in on my diary and your words of support. Have seen your name dotted around offering similarly fab support so wanted to say thanks and will stop by on your news - it looks like things are going well for you. I'm delighted!

All the best

Thankyou DG,Smiler,Rach,Exmug ,Pink and JS

Late post feeling agitated,down today and bloody shattered after work,still not feeling good and struggling at work sodding headache wont go away.

Rach has hit the nail on the head for me with her "sitting in sludge"feeling.Thats how i feel with my life.I thought it would be a great idea to go back to work,didnt like being on benefits

But now i'm in a minimum wage job ,struggling to make ends meet,going no where, certainly no chance for promotion how do you promote a cleaner lol.

Do i go back to collage,try and find a better paid job,go back full time,my head just goes round and round.

I want a better quality of life for me and my boys and at the moment that sludge will only let me move so far.I dont know i just keep going round in circles as time passes me by.

No gambling so theres a positive.

Wll im off to bed work in the morn

Stay Strong

E xx

PS i know its not all about money i have my boys,health ,home and a job i just dont know which way to go to make it better.

Hi E

The CG in us wants everything now. It is tough at times but if you don't gamble you are in with a fighting chace in life.

Keep doing the right things and the right things will happen.

I hope you start gaining some strength in due course to rise from the ashes like a Phoenix!

Take care

Hello Elizabeth..

Firstly thanks for your post! Read, glowed, smiled and chuckled in that order.. Thankyou.

Now you, and my easy to say humble ramble. I hear you loud and clear in what your saying and the sludge you're sitting in at (moment). Your such a genuine T/W, possibly just some belief required. You have your priorities in place and all credit to you, but really think time to take stock and start looking out for You. Look after your self TW and really believe that's the start of getting of the roundabout....

That tree at the end of your garden is in site, now going to put them words in your last paragraph in the correct order - TW'health, cubs, home, job, money..

Whilst on this role, here's a riddle I think of often... Money, service, quality verses quality, service, money. The latter always wins in the long run..

TC TW HLUFC EHC and have nice ZZZZzzzz

hey hun.....we both must be sludgy and i also have had a headache now for a few days...must be catching...know what you mean about feeling stuck and a paralysed really about what to change...think in our 40's aswell its a time to take stock and look at where we have been and what next....

From what I know of your creative and fun ideas with teddy bears picnics E... I think you'd make a cool primary school teacher!..

I know its no consolation but I think there is a lot of people out there wanting something to change but unsure of how thats going to shake down....I'm one of them and I have been sat in a room with around another 6 tonight at meeting ...

This time of year brings on a bit of cabin fever too as we are all pretty much housebound...Hoping in the spring new ideas will come in and the sludge will start to move...

Funny thing...I was in the kitchen yesterday and could smell something really "off"...turned to Dotty and said "my lifes so stagnant that its started to smell!"...Later on opened the fridge and saw some gooey cheese at the back left over from xmas..the really stinky stuff that had gone mouldy...anyway...fridge got bleached....

Sleep well hun..know your having an early night tonight ...Hugs (((((TW)))))) xxx wuffski

ps...just read your post to me E....its so true....what am I like? it is still early days isnt it....sometimes I forget that and expect a lot of myself....think i may take a dinking holiday...lol.....think I've pushed my noggin too hard ...no wonder I've got a headache ...xxxx (((((E)))))) Wuffski xxx

Thankyou once again Smiler,Rach and Exmug

To answer smiler its not that i want it all now(although that would be nice) i just cant decide what to do, all options have pros and cons,cost,childcare etc i just cant make a decision about any of it.

Slowly recovering financially from my slip another couple of weeks of belt tightning and should be back on track.Emotionally i've dealt with it.

Still tired although headache seems to be going just got to get rid of the cough now.

Stay Strong

E xx

Hi Elizabeth thanks for stopping by x

good to see you are still going strong.

and I know where you are coming from with trying to decide on what you want to do in your life its a hard one I have been through all that, before I had kids I had a good job good wage so on then I gave it all up to be a mum

so when I was bored I would get a small part time job so that's what I have done for the past 12 years swapping and changing jobs

I thought about re training which would have taken about 2 year but in the end I decided not to bother, now they are both in high school and 1 is going to collage next year and I have for myself thinking what am I going to be good for once they have left school.

so my advice would be get yourself settled in your head and so on then start looking at what you would love ( oppss that was a little longer than I planned to put sorry)

Good luck keep going you are doing just great xxx