Diary

Hi Merry,

Nothing is easy fighting this addiction. You are taking very positive steps already, well done.

I had issues at work, most I blame now on my addiction, the others mixed with my addiction didn't make things better. Coming clean with your partner is a big step, you've got be be honest about everything, don't hold anything back. I've just gone through this process with my wife. It was probably the hardest thing I've done in my life, of course they were tears from both sides. She has taken it well but of course I've lost her trust. She even told me that she was heart broken which again upset me greatly. But I damaged our relationship, caused upset in the family house but I faced up to my addiction and have told everything. Now I am on the long road to recovery. If you come home to silence, you break the silence, you cannot say sorry enough to someone you love who you've hurt so bad. It's early days for me but I know communication with my wife and spending more time with my three girls is very important to my recovery.

Hold your head up high, you've done well so far, of course they will be obstacles on the road to recovery, continue your journey and stay strong.

All the best.

Thanks Shep

Like any road to recovery at the beginning its hard. Family debt work, and at this moment I wonder if any of the 3 will ever be the same again.

I like you advice on breaking the silence myself. Talk will be the biggest way forward for the family and if he can see that I am trying to sort the other things out, hopefully that will keep us going in the right direction.

I hope your own recovery is going well and by having some money you are able to spend quality time with your family just like I intend to do.

Thank you for your support and the support of all the others on here and it is nice to kow your not alone, we all have our journey to make.

Hello Merry,

Good on you for coming to this forum and starting on the path to recovering from this slyest of addictions. A behavioural addiction in my mind is a tough nut to crac.k compared with substance addiction but they do go hand in hand. Adictions adiction!

Good on you for telling your partner and understandingly it's going to be hard for him to get his head around! We can't, so it must be so very hard for our family/ friends.

Start addressing the gambling and work/ family and obviously finances will start to follow suit.

As Shep has said, hold your head up high. Your on the right road in tackling this and bid farewell to the days off beating yourself up.

Keep talking..

Hi,

My wife cannot really understand the mind and actions of a CG, but what she told me is I wouldn't cure my addiction on my own and therefore needed further help. I didn't want to go the counciling route so I've chosen GA meetings which I can honestly say I enjoy attending. At home it's all about communication and trying to control stress levels, with three young girls under 12 the house can turn upside down within minutes!

Please keep us all updated on your recovery.

Thanks everyone for you encouagement and advice, as this is very new to me, as hallf#life you say it will be to my husband.

I have just had my debt management call which was encouraging and although work depending it could be sorted within 5 years and the main thing for my husabnd is the house which I have been assured we can keep. To know that we can have normal finances within this time (god willing) is one of the biggest insentives I could have.

It will be a long process but as long as I have my husband who I will be 100% honest with I know I can do it.

7 days gf today, not long, but a milestone for me and no taking from Peter to pay Paul, next goal double digits at 10 days

Once again thanks for all your help which is definately needed.

Day 8 here I come!!

Hi merry, some very positive steps in there hi 5 to you. You will soon see milestones clocking up and they happen quicker than you think. I'm on a DMP and personally it has been the best thing financially that I have done. I have a clearer sight of things and knowing that one payment to them and everyone gets paid instead of working out each month who and what to pay.

Stay strong and take each day at a time

Thanks Tilly I had my call yesterday and although a long way to go to know that with finances there is light at the end of the tunnel take a little burden from me. Got my 1:1 counselling on Monday next step. My biggest achievement was getting through Wednesday when I'm on my own and not a sign of gambling anywhere. Did watch a few grey's anatomy though and have realised I have 2 legs and go for a walk.

Thanks for ur support and I hope your journey is going well.

Double digits getting nearer x

Well here I am double digits

At the moment my family are still my biggest incentive to keep me going.

Counselling on Monday which I'm looking forward to in a strange way.

Next goal going into the teens 3 days!

Well done on double digits...your doing great x

Well done Merry, double digits is a great achievement - Im walking this road with you as i am on 12 days gf. One hour at a time, one day at a time and we will get ito those teens and keep on going!

Hi merry well done on double digits g f , I'm on day 20 today so we are both doing good !! We are all doing this together , and we will all succeed together , we all help each other , we are not alone . ! I'm doing chatroom each night and it helps me loads too , i know you can stay g f , all the best . Loz

Thank you everyone for your support

I don't know if its because the sun is shining (lots of walking) or the love of my family regardless of my addiction but things are good.

I still have along way to go debts to orgainise, wortk to sort but at the moment I feel I never want to gamble again, but never say never as I have read so many times, and as Rose say one hour at a time.

I hope everyones journey is going well, rose teens tomorrow, Loz 3 weeks and Lox in 56 days I will have caught up on you.

I am so glad I joined this site because we are not alone, we have our own individual journey but we have the same addiction.

I will be here again in 3 days time, with my next wee achievement.

A day early than 13 but now at 12.

Went for counselling today which I feel again put me on a positive note. Lots of listening and advice and making me realise that my journey will be different from everyone else, but to take the support from everyone and my family.

Was in the house all day yesterday myself and still no urge to gamble. I love my family and I will not put them through anymore heartache.

Hope everyone else is doing well and adding another day to gf xx

Well done Merry, keep remembering the love you have for your family and you will blast through the teens X