Do you know what it is you want in life?

Hi

It is healthy to go out and have a good walk.

For me at the beginning of my recovery I did not understand what were wants and what were needs.

Writing down your daily needs wants, and goals is helping us be committed to our self, to be accountable to our self yet not obsessive.

Each item we do and cross off the list makes us feel productive and more self-sufficient.

It also helps us keep focused on today. 

The thinking we have must haves, is that obsessive thinking.

Like saying I have to, this is when we understand our healthy wants our healthy needs and our healthy goals.

I understand that due to pains and traumas in my life that I could not with emotionally I use to blank them out.

Once we take our recovery seriously, we stop causing our self-more pain.

By reducing our pain levels and reducing our fears those deep-seated painful traumas come to surface with clear well focused memories of the pain we suffered.

I am a non-religious person and use to feel threatened by the mention of God or religion.

The sense of lack of being in touch, this could be slow response time and lack of awareness.

This improved for me once I got in to meeting therapies and having counselling.

Once my fears were reduced my trust grew and I knew I could talk about anything I was ready for counselling.

The recovery meetings got me off talking about being focused on being in action and stopped me being focused on money.

The recovery meetings got me encouraged in to giving therapies and helped me see and feel myself in other people, both the healthy and unhealthy. 

Could it be that an analytical mind wants understanding and raises questions we need answers to?

Our needs come first, this is our commitment to our self, being more productive than self-destructive, becoming more self-sufficient.

Our wants come second, in a way our wants are also a way to reward or self in health ways.

Now our goals are there to extend our self-more and more each day, to achieve more with our life and our time.

To move from feeling guilty ashamed regretful shame, we then heal those pains, and we live more for today than ever before. 

Our healthy goals give us direction focus and self-worth and feeling success in our life and feeling success in our self.

Yet can I become more committed selfish and focused into healthy living.

One column for our wants and one column for our needs.

In time we get more clarity in which is which.

Having a curious mind and having questions is very healthy indeed.

It is important to stick with likeminded goal achieving healthy people.

Asking questions to people who are not motivated will make them feel threatened.

It is very important to only talk about your goals with likeminded goal achieving healthy people.

Love and peace to everyone

Dave L

AKA Dave of Beckenham UK

No and I still don't which I feel made me vulnerable to the gambling addiction setting in. Maybe I felt life is a gamble but all sorts of factors started me and kept me as an addict.

I have always looked for fleeting moments of happiness or contentment.....a walk, the birds singing no, isolation on a sunny hillside and peace and quiet.

I am now working through whether I am a flawed character or just someone that's happier being left alone with little stress.Whether I enjoy isolation or its just a twisted comfort blanket is the question....it's probably the latter as my gambling is an escape from the truth or hurt I cannot or have only recently faced.

I'm a thinker not a doer so my life has in many respects been like a leaf in the wind which probably isn't good.....I can see how that plays into the devil may care form of chance that seemed to ring my bell of addiction 

It's an interesting question though but I'm glad I'm gamble free to consider such questions 

Best wishes to everyone on the forum