escape

Robby

fella the funny thing is you got a shout on my thread today,if only you would take the truth from your own words

They have had a profound effect on my life.

f**k I staked my family every time I had a punt.

I know how close it came to losing them.

I hope the same does not happen to you my friend.

You know the drill

The choice is all yours

Duncs stepping forward never back

Thanks for the post no maybe and duncs.

In a really bad place at the moment,self destruction mode.

Gambling is a waste of time duncs,it is evil,takes over your life.

The past few weeks my every waking thought has revolved arouind gambling,several near misses,each time ive said if the last one of the acca comes in 'I'm quitting'.

I never would of,the buzz has become the only thing I've yearned for.

I know all the answers,whilst gambling I know its wrong for me,the worst thing I can possible do,but the hope of making every thing ok with 1 hit spurned me on.

The answer to my problems is all so simple,give up. I'm baffled why I can't just do it,its the holy grail for me.

I'm weak at the moment,very weak,a day at a time,no more gambling and every thing will be fine. 12 hours no gambling.

Sorry to read you are in a bad place again Robby. I have said to you before you are not ready to quit, you know you need to but you can't do it. Like I was maybe 4 years ago.

You will get there but I dunno how long it will take you. You know what you need to do it's a matter of taking all the advice and doing the things which take you a step in the right direction.

When others say it's your choice that's just rubbish. If it was a matter of making a choice we could all have recovered much faster or perhaps even not got ourselves into such a mess in the first place. There are ways out but they are individual to the person. Do what is right for you a day at a time and a step at a time. You can make progress and see progress without going cold turkey. I think you have proved a few times now you are not ready for that at the moment.

Best wishes.

Hi robby,

Sorry to see the place your in at the moment,it's a dark place I know I have been there many many times, and every time I said "this is it, this time I will quit, tomorrow I won't gamble, I kidded myself every time and yet I knew as soon as the urge came I would gamble.

Like you and probably most compulsive gamblers I knew whilst in action where it would lead and how it would end but I just couldn't stop.

Everyone has a choice, we have a choice everyday , do you want to stay in the misery and blackness of the gambling madness.? Or do you want to start re-building your life ?

The debt always dragged me back to gambling, one big win and I would be ok when actually it only ended ten times worse.

The simple fact is you won't win it back because your a compulsive gambler and it will never be enough .....

You can pay debt back eventually, if your family leave you you might never get them back.

You can do it, be gentle with yourself. One day at a time, one hour at a time if you have to...

I wish you strength and determination to face this head on...

Take care

Blondie x

Hi Robby,

As tough as you find your daily routine these days, you need to let that pain and disappointment go. No, it is not easy, and we all know it's not, but the choice is yours. To go one way or the other. Take it steady, minute at a time if needed, just go through those hurdles, it will get less and less of them as time pass by.

Addiction takes it all - put a stop to it. Stick ur middle finger at it's ugly face and face recovery road. You are a good person, you deserve so much in this life.

I know you can do it, do you believe in yourself? It is possible to kick this habit out of our lives, and live more fulfilling and peaceful life going forward.

You can do it

Take care and stay safe

Sandra x

Thanks for your kind words of support blondie,captain and sandra.

Had a good day sunday,a family day down the beach,a cheap fun day,gamble free,did me good,an escape from the gambling bubble I've been in.

My life has been on edge the past couple of months,I've been risking everything.the bills will just about get paid at the end of the month if I don't have anotherr melt down between now and the 1st.

I've got so much to lose.

Captain my real problem gambling has been internet gambling,that's where the damage was done,I elimanated this and just gambled with the spare cash I had in a new bookies in town,our bills and mortgage account was safe.

It worked for a while,small stakes saturday gamble,problem was I got the taste back,sat gamble become an everyday gamble but the damage was limited,god forbid I think I was in profit and enjoyed it.

I then got sucked in by an internet offer of england winning the world cup,1966-1,it should have had a few more noughts on the end!

That pound bet opened the can of worms again,I used my credit card,and before england even kicked a ball I was back betting on every tennis,basketball game I have no idea about.

I'm going to work towards eradicating any means of having access to bet on the internet,I've not self excluded from the new bookies in town yet,if I did this by past experience I would drive out of town.

A heart to heart with my partner is required cos I can't do this alone.

Day 3 no gamble,just for today I shall not gamble

Thanks for your kind words of support blondie,captain and sandra.

Had a good day sunday,a family day down the beach,a cheap fun day,gamble free,did me good,an escape from the gambling bubble I've been in.

My life has been on edge the past couple of months,I've been risking everything.the bills will just about get paid at the end of the month if I don't have anotherr melt down between now and the 1st.

I've got so much to lose.

Captain my real problem gambling has been internet gambling,that's where the damage was done,I elimanated this and just gambled with the spare cash I had in a new bookies in town,our bills and mortgage account was safe.

It worked for a while,small stakes saturday gamble,problem was I got the taste back,a saturday gamble become an everyday gamble but the damage was limited,god forbid I think I was in profit and enjoyed it.

I then got sucked in by an internet offer of england winning the world cup,1966-1,it should have had a few more noughts on the end!

That pound bet opened the can of worms again,I used my credit card,and before england even kicked a ball I was back betting on every tennis,basketball game I have no idea about.

I'm going to work towards eradicating any means of having access to bet on the internet,I've not self excluded from the new bookies in town yet,if I did this by past experience I would drive out of town to the nearest bookies.

Maybe working towards eradicating phone and internet gambling was the way forward,small steps needed cos at present and the past few years nothing has worked for me.

A heart to heart with my partner is required cos I can't do this alone.

Day 3 no gamble,just for today I shall not gamble

Robby

fella sorry to have posted such 'rubbish' on your thread.

From the outside looking in it seems you really have not had enough of losing.

My view is gift that 'spare' cash to debt/family/savings but if you choose to gift it to the bookies then as I said that is your choice.

I wish you well and hope the destruction is eradicated,I always wonder how many more episodes my wife would have accepted before she said 'enough'

I hope you don't use up all the forgiveness on offer to you.

Regards Duncan

Robby not going to give any advice im not qualified to yet myself, im still struggling myself but i did make a CHOICE to finally QUIT and mean it, and thats not rubbish advice mate.

CL

I'm quitting for good,no half measures,it starts now,I cannot take anymore.

I've mulled over clinging on to having a few small bets,eradicating just internet gambling but its never gona work.

Cold turkey call it what you like,from this day forward I'm a non gambler.

I'm sellf excluding from the new shop in town,putting up all barriers I can,these blocks have helped in the past and will do so again.

That simple phrase 'you can't win cos you can't stop' is all I need to remember.

Hi Robbie

Very well done on accepting you can't win cos you can't stop hard lesson to learn but that is the fact that we CGs have to come to terms with

You can't take anymore from gambling and you are now ready to quit and get on what I call a roller coaster of abstaining

That is such a positive choice to make

Cold turkey is too harsh think one day at a time the mind handles that so much better

Small steps small goals gives small rewards and this is so much better than keep going backwards

You will win each day you don't play remember that too

Best wishes Suzanne x

Good luck robbie. Hope you manage to quit this time. I'm the same as you. I have found it impossible to quit. Even though it is destroying my life. But we have to keep trying.

All the best, Rick.

Dunno where to start,but at least I'm willing to start to try and quit this habit that's gradually killIng me.
I've so had enough,I've not lost a lot financialy but gambling is still my every waking thought.
I'm infected beyond cure.

Debts have me clinging to the evils of gambling,it's the only way I can see a way out at the moment.
I feel like I'm treadin water.

I have good days,feel like im winning the war,only to be Sucked back in.

Every thing should be rosy in life,I've a nice house,2 beautiful kids a loving fiance,due to get married next year,but this big dark cloud called gambling hovets over my head constantly.

27 years of compulsive gambling,I can't win cos I can't stop.

I've had every intention of stopping from today,another day I should of won,changed my mind blah blah blah,it's all irrelevant;we all know what would happen if I would of won.

The only way I can gamble is by travelling out of town,which I've done more frequently recently,I need to exclude from these 2 shops that are in range.
I have no debit card,I'm excluded from all online sites,the blocks are in place.
I've been here many times before,I don't wish to attend ga that's why I'm trying this site that has helped me quit for long periods in the past.
My 300.00 loss really really hurt today,what hurts more is the power this disease has over me,I've got to learn I can not handle money.
I pay my wages into my partners account to cover the bills,the surplus has got to pay off my debts.

Debts,- all my adult life;loans;cards overdrafts,I've had enough.

I'm down but not out.

Hi Robby.

Firstly well done for coming back it sound like you have had some success but like you can't win because you can't stop.

I don't know if you know you can self exclude from bookies over the phone the number is 0800 294 2060. Its easy to do. Have a look on the overcoming gamble page there's a thread on there.