Going to keep this thread now!

Thanks for your encouraging words on my diary freda....surely if you can talk your frustration s out to total strangers like myself and others on the diaries then surely their must be a family member somewhere that you get on with...personally think you should go tonight freda...easier said than done i know but why should you miss out cause of others..avoid them i say theres bound to be others who would appreciate your company...well done on another bet free day...we can do this 😉

Sorry that you feel unable to cope with the family thing Freda,i can relate to it though as i always try to avoid things like that myself,been known to throw a last minute tantrum on many occasions!!!(if a 54 year old can have tantrums 🙂 ).Just concentrate on stopping the gambling for now,and on making sure the marriage is strong.

Seano.

Thanks guys.

I didnt go to the do. In hindsight I made the right decision. I was very wound up yesterday, have been for days, and its not the right frame of mind to go into a difficult situation with.

My husband is so patient and supportive with me. Sometimes I wish he would get angry with me as I feel I deserve it. Im used to people being angry, and this patience is weird for me!

However, Im determined not to mess up this wonderful gift I have in him. If I am honest, because he is so patient and understanding, I could probably get through a lot more gambling before he lost his cool - but I wont. Why put him and myself through that?

It seems like it can work either way being given an ultimatum by your partner, some find it helps, and some cant handle the pressure. Am going to make sure he doesn't get to his final straw.

W was right when she said 'wishing you a peaceful patch as soon as you like' most of the problems at the moment are caused by myself. We have just got married and could be building up our resources and strengthening ourselves together. Why I would throw that away I dont know.

Anyway. Day 3 - today I will not gamble.

Im on my own all day pretty much, so I will keep busy, meditate so I dont get wound up, and if I go out I will leave most of my money at home.

Hi Freda hope your ok ? Thanks for the message on my diary. Keep working on it - somtimes it needs to go to the edge to give a reality check. Its hard I know. Hope all is OK. Blocked.

Freda,i just thought you may get some benefit from this 🙂

“One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.”

Seano

Aw seano that is lovely! Thanks too, Blocked - Im ok, Im struggling to maintain my abstinence, but I will get there!

Hubby understanding as ever about bill money, have been out and about today and no gambling.

From a recovery point of view, I am looking forward to being back at work tomorrow as it will keep me busy. I have the dentist in the morning too - eek!

My daughter is a dental nurse and she has actually had patients pass out before the treatment because they are so scared but she says that the thing she hears most is that they say after that it did not hurt anywhere near as much as they thought it would.

Going to the dentist is one of those things that we know is good for us but very few of us look forward to it.

Not gambling is good for us but as compulsive gamblers very few of us look forward to it.

Sometimes if we can accept that something will be good for us it will mean our lives are enhanced and less painful in the long run.

All the best

Stumper x

Hi Freda, just a quick note to say hello, as I have started posting again on the forum. Sad to see that you have been struggling recently but I hope you will overcome this and bounce back. When I first came on here before you were one of the people who really helped me in chat and I want to thank you for that.

4D

Morning Freda,

You are probably at work now. Just been catching up on your diary....seeing what you have been up to.

It's so easy to slide back into old habits f. Go back to basics....you know the drill.....no cash, keep busy, post on here loads, go into chat....we know they work and I am sending you some virtual strength to get you back on the recovery road.

I know what you mean about family do's. I have my daughter's 18th coming up on Saturday....at the time of booking it I was all excited but the reality and now the run up to it makes me physically ill. I will, no doubt enjoy it when I am there but I really understand you f......strange creatures aren't we 😉

Stay safe....love from Jas xx

Morning! thanks guys, its lovely to log in and have posts 🙂

First morning at insane 3 way junction went well. Its quite full-on though! I think I did alright, cos my new colleague hugged me! ha ha! the one she had been put with before, was putting her in danger all the time from being a bit of a div. So don't have to live up to much 😀

Well, off to dentist. What a lovely Monday I am having eh? lol. Nah my dentist fab, he done me 2 fillings last time with no injection.

Will be on a posting frenzy later so watch out, im going to swing by your threads dudes!

Hope the dentists went well Freda.....,i would rather fight a Lion than go to the dentist myself!!!,....,really good to see such a "bubbly" happy post from you today.

Seano.

Hi. Freda

Nice to talk to you in chat last night. Hope your trip to the dentist was not a painful one. I am such a wimp at the dentist!

Nice to read a cheery post today. All the best to you

Lili

Thanks for the post freda...good to see you positive in your postings...as for dentists.not been for years,not scared just canny afford them lol,touch wood i havent had much trouble...it is one o my prioritys tho when im in better financial position...stay strong lass we can do this 😉

Thanks wp

Good morning at work, and was relieved to have slept better last night.

I have been clearing out drawers, as we are desperate for more storage space. As a result, Ive had room to put away a load of things that were just lying on the floor. My home is starting to look less chaotic, and it feels nice 🙂

Feeling good today. Got away with just the check up at the dentist, so no money stresses there. Hopefully going to see my favourite monk tonight, and it will be nice to catch up with the faces there. I have missed meditation class, and the teachings. Missed the people too.

Back to work soon. Coffee time I think!

Today I wont gamble. If I am tempted, I will go to the nearest charity box/big issue seller, and get a buzz for doing that instead 🙂

Hi Freda

Thanks for posting on my diary it means a lot to me that someone like yourself agrees with my opinion.

Im glad to see you are hard at work .Itkeeps your mind off gambling and i am especially glad to read that you will get a buzz out of going to the nearest charity box or big issue seller.Very kind.Keep up the good work Freda. Jeff.