Hi Charlotte,
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling low at the moment. Do not drop anchor in that sad dark place. You DO NOT belong there. Others have said this I'm sure and I agree. Gambling screws with our minds. Try to stay positive dear. It was a slip. We slip, fall and then get right back up again and that's the beauty of the new day. Every day is a do over!!! Hugs Charlotte!!!! Huge Huge Hugs!! -joan
Failure
It’s only a word.
But it carries with it so much pain
and so little concern
so much frustration
and so little respect,
so much stress and so little
understanding
that people spend their lives
running through their days
in the hope of avoiding the long arm
of this little word.
To test our vision, you must risk
failure.
To temper your ego, you must attempt
the impossible.
To tell your story, you must
take a chance.
To see beyond the horizon, you must
spread your wings.
To be all you can be, you must
stretch, flex, try, and go beyond
your proven limits.
To bridge the silence, you must risk
rejection.
To advance into the unknown, you must
risk the peril of all your
previous beliefs and emotions
that feel so secure.
Failure is not negative. It is a teacher.
It molds, refines, and polishes you
so that one day your light will
shine for all to see.
It isn’t the failure you experience
that will determine your destiny,
but your next step and then the next
that will tell
the story of your life.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other,
And taking your life day by day…
There’s a brighter tomorrow that’s just down the road -
Don’t look back! You’re not going that way!
This is the Beginning of a New Day.
I Can Waste It … or Use It For Good.
But What I Do Today is Important,
Because I am Exchanging a Day of My Life For It.
When Tomorrow Comes, This Day Will Be Gone Forever,
Leaving in It’s Place Something That I Have Traded For It.
I Want It to Be Gain and Not Loss, Good and Not Evil,
Success and Not Failure, in Order That I Don't Regret the Price I Have Paid For It.
I Will Give 100% of Myself Just For Today, You Never Fail
Until You Stop Trying.
I Have Been Given This Day to Use as I Will.
I have known the pain of
failure
frustration
disappointment
defeat
Because I have taken a chance on
winning
succeeding
achieving
It takes a lot of the the first
to get some of the second.
Hi Charlotte
A perfect post!
Welcome back- I've missed your posts so much.
Take care of you
Irene
x
I logged on 2nite 2 see how every1 was doing and I don't know wot 2 say tbh... Thank u 2 all of u that have offered me support the last cpl of days... I just read thru ur posts and ur encouragement means a lot 2 me!
I wrote my last post when I was quite drunk... I thought about deleting it .. But I am not going 2.. That is how I was feeling and I am allowing myself 2 feel the way I do these days and that is something I would not have done b4 I would have ignored my feelings!
I am still really unsure of my own journey atm....That as not changed... I did not see my last slip coming but I am beginning 2 learn y I gamble and y I find it so hard 2 let go thru counselling so I guess that is a start!
I am not sure rite now how I can stay gamble free, if ne1 has ne ideas that they think would help me pls let me know!
I came 2 post on here 2nite, cus I am struggling with really bad urges atm.... I feel like I have messed up now so y not just continue... My friends r going 2 the pub 2nite and it is so tempting. But then I look at Maddison playing so oblivious 2 my failings.. her love 4 me is unconditional... I don't wanna ruin her life by gambling I really don't!
My bf will be home soon... I will have 2 try and resist and stay strong!
I will catch up with a few diaries now and 4 ne1 I miss I will catch up with u soon xx
I am gonna try and think of a new thread 4 ppl next yr ...where mistakes r allowed and can be learnt from! I think coming back from a slip 4 ne1 takes all the strength u have and more!
Finally, I just have 2 say a really special thank u 2 Apg....I know u don't post much now. But u have supported me and made me see sense away from the forum the last cpl of days... Even when I have been a rite stubborn so and so... U know I think u r gr8 and u r a true inspiration xxxx
hey hun...glad to see you back and glad to hear your thoughts...
You said something there that i had not thought about even though I have read peoples words before...until reading your post there it had not occured to me that the gamble free threads for some may be too much pressure...(i hope i have understood that right )
This may be a bad comparisan as I am typing what just pops into my head as always..but i guess recovery could be seen a bit like weight loss in that crash diets with big losses seem great but maybe difficult to maintain in the long run but the person who turns up week after week..some weeks dropping quite a lot and then maybe putting a bit back on again and fluctuating untiil they reach their goal may be able to keep it off over the long haul....
I think its a great idea to still have a goal but like you say you could still remain on the thread and maybe explore precursers to a slip rather than have to leave the thread...that in itself would be a pattern to watch out for?
Progress not perfection.....could be a good title?
I think for some people the element of competition may work to abstain but for others maybe a more creative thread is needed?...
Perhaps trying to keep gamble free with the same thinking that may have contributed to it in the first place may not be the right way to go for you hun....and i mean that as a fellow perfectionist xxx
keep posting your ideas hun...almost want to be part of your new thread myself!!!
hugs
Uncondititonal x
R and D xx
You've kinda answered your own question charlotte. You came on here tonight cause you had urges. You didn't act on them cause you would rather write your thoughts on here.95% of my posts have been from my mobile as I don't have access to a laptop. Should the urge ever arise again whilst you are out socializing then log in on your phone.carry little or no money as well.
You may have a point about gamble free threads.there IS a lot of pressure to an extent and whilst it helps some it doesn't others.i started off in it this year but felt there was too much pressure in logging in on the stated dates.each to their own but I prefer seeing the day at a time working better as each day bet free is a victory for that person. the thread itself started off with loads and now sadly I reckon a high % of it is made up of long term diary members who were and are GUARANTEED to be bet free anyway in my opinion.
Just my opinion though so sorry if it offends anyone.
You take care lassie your wee one is worth millions compared to gambling and you can't buy that with ANY money.
Onwards you march.
Best wishes.
Winning Post.
hi charlotte
(Yummy mummy) wombles copyright
The doctor has returned, I haven't read properly as of yet what has occurred over last few days,firstly I would never think you been an idiot, ok you slipped but nobody is perfect and none of us here stayed gamble free at first attempt.the important bit is to learn from them. I do say it doesn't matter what day you are on, or how long you been free its about not gambling today and enjoying life, which from last time I read your diary you certainly was doing. You have a wonderful daughter whom I can tell means the world to you obviously, and at same time you are fighting this at the hardest time of the year.
What I prescribe for you is to get back to enjoying life spending time with maddie, and your boyfriend spoiling them and letting them spoil you and the rest will fall in to place when you least expect it, and also a cheeky strawberry cider as and when needed.
Charlotte you are a great person who is recognised by many a member on here for being courageous and a fighter and this certainly is the most challenging time of the year.
You can't change the past but you can dictate the future
Oh yeah nearly forgot its
Dr great uncle Carl now, my nephew and his girlfriend had grace Olivia on wed 8.4lb
Morning,
Just wanted to say I am so pleased you are still posting. I was really quite down the other night because your post was not Charlotte like at all. It was as if you had just given up. The slip is pretty irrelevant but I was worried you had given up. One thing I think I have got to know about you is you will fight and fight so I thank you today for proving me right 🙂 you are back and still fighting.
I don't need to say much else I think your last post was brilliant and you have a great idea for a thread next year you should def consider getting that running. You know I will be around as a supporter and friend just keep being you!!
Flagg
Its great to see you back posting and getting back on track again. Its like learning to ride a bike sometimes we fall off but the quicker we get back on again the sooner we can start to rebuild our confidence.
Thankyou for mentioning me in your post im sure I only did what anyone else on here would do for you. You have the support of so many on here because you take the time to assist so many others in their own personal recovery journies and for that you should be very proud of yourself.
Remember all the things that are important in your life and keep yourself busy when the urges come.
Hope you have a fantastic weekend and stay strong my friend.
Andrew xx
Just a quick one to say thanks for the encouraging message! It means a lot and has really helped me! I hope you are doing well and look forward to hear of your progress!
Luke
Hi Charlotte
Was great to catch up in chat! The wee blethers really cheer me up.
I'm so glad you're sounding so positive again. Keep up the great work!
Irene
x
lol!!! think we were posting at the same time- great minds eh?!
Irene
x
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