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You've come off heroin now your on methadone but your not likely to ever go cold turkey ....sorry but I can't respect that..

Knock yourself out..

Gone

Well the good news is I don't have to care enough to be nice to you as your gonna gamble anyway :>)

Cap,

Ref: Your earlier post on my diary. I cannot do what you do. I tried it for a while before I came to this site. I knew I was in trouble with roulette but convinced myself if I just didn't play then I would be fine with football bets but no matter what I always ended up on the machine.

I came to this site suspecting that I had a gambling problem. Within less than an hour I knew I had a gambling problem. You may not believe this but, today, I enjoy not gambling far more than I enjoy gambling. I get more out of not staking my money than I do from any win. I suppose in a way to think this way you have to realise that it doesn't matter how much money I win I will always lose it again. If any gambler truly believes that last sentence then what is the point. The only reason for me to gamble is addiction. I want to break that addiction. I previously experienced ten months free from gambling and I want to feel the way I did during that time once again and for the rest of my life. Giving up all gambling including football betting is a small sacrifice to make.

I worry about your select betting but one thing I know is that everyone must find their own way. I hope you can maintain control.

Once again I thank you for the debate.

Tomso.

Hi Captain,

Best of luck with your plans. Not for me but I am not having much success my way. I find people on here are under the assumption that they may never fail in their recovery when it happens they may have to eat a little humble pie. We are all here to aid in each others recovery.

Michael

Captain

Thanks for the reply on my thread, you explain yourself well which for me indicates you are following your own strategy.

I know the subject is a raw and emotional one, which I fully respect everyones imput on and know that you found this site when you needed help, to which my only wish is likewise for everyone else Help and the support you needed.

Me fella I'm not here to judge, as I dont think anyone else is, I believe we all have a common goal to rid our lives of the destructive nature our gambling wages on our lives and worst those around us.

Keep doing what works for you.

Duncs stepping forward never back.

Wish I could have got to the stage I am at a lot earlier. During my 5 years in recovery I have gone through various phases and been helped by this Forum, reading books, counselling, much self analysis and re-training my brain and filling my spare time in different ways. My debts have not increased for 3 years now but they have not decreased either as I pay minimum amounts and have continually lost all my money.

But I am where I am and from next month the debts will start decreasing.

Captain

Nothing more than a good healthy debate to keep the mind open and keep our appetites for this forum fresh , for me I av many ups and downs with this site as do many others so when a topic of conversation comes up and is debated in a proper manner then everyone can take something from it

Our diaries are there for us and for our own recovery we post what we feel is right and will help us move forward in life , yes people will read and comment and some may not agree , we all av choices I choose to read ur diary as I find it thought provoking and take something from it and put it into my own recovery if I didn't I simply would choose not to read it , if tomorrow I went out and gambled thinking I could go out and control it could I blame anyone ? No only myself its my actions my responsibility my choice to do so

Other may not agree but thats my opinion and everyone is entitled to theirs the great thing on here everyone respects that

I really wish u well on ur journey and I will keep reading

Castle2

Joining this "debate" late, and from a bystander mainly on this forum... point of view, there seems to be a pivotal point as far as the rights of the poster and the possible effects on the reader... but surely, as this affliction is so diverse, we all run the risk of upsetting somebody... as we all have at some time or other.

I know how to get passed certain blocks... do I post that knowledge as a warning.... or would it kick somebody into touch?

I think I understand Captain... would disagree if he posted his opinions on somebody else's diary... but i know my addiction is not the same as a lot of peoples on here... and my "bespoke" solution, whilst ongoing and never foolproof, is working for me... and like any idea, may or may not help others... should I stay quiet when my thoughts could help some but hurt others?

I am southern comforting and in no way do I wish to upset anyone... I probably do not know the whole story... but if we have separate forums for some diversity then we must have it for all diversity... a watered down forum.

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No thoughts at all of staying in there gambling on unplanned random rubbish. Have totally wiped that from my life. Whether the football bet wins or loses there is now no connectivity to going gambling on other things. I will simply wait until my next identified sports bet,

If you cannot attack at one end you have to defend at the other.

I think complacency and boredom are two of the biggest enemies of the compulsive gambler. This afternoon I have nothing to do, having covered all the possibilities this weekend already. Up to a couple of years ago that would have meant hit the bookmakers. Not any more. In periods of boredom at weekends now I just go for a walk, listen to music or simply sit and muse and look out of the window at nothing in particular. My preference is always to be doing something productive or enjoyable in my spare time but I have learnt that this is unrealistic. Coping with periods where I am not occupied and bored has been important in my recovery.

Hi captain

All very true just had a real tough afternoon myself but hit the gym instead of the bookies and guess what it was the right decision

U seem more settled now think that debate helped as well u also show good respect to others who may not agree with ur recovery

Keep doin what works for u ultimately thats all that matters

Castle2

Hi Captain,

Thank you for your post on my diary. Now that the dust has appeared to settle following the mid-week discussion over some of your posts content I would just like to say something.

I am always drawn to your diary, mainly because it is different to others on here, but also because I see instant similarities in the way that gambling effects us.

I know that you have this thing with planned and random and all that, and that is your way of explaining and justifying it. Which I have know problem with whatsoever by the way.

What I do have a problem with though is that for me, just by reading your post on Saturday morning about going into the bookies and gambling, was and is a trigger for me to gamble.

I have to let you know this because it has a detrimental effect on my own personal recovery to come on a forum and read on a diary about the very thing I am trying to stop doing.

Perversly though, your idea is something I would be kind of into if only I had self-control. Alas, I do not. And I might add that sooner or later you will not be able to avoid your random side either.

This addictive habit will chew you up again and again. I wish you could find alternative ways to gain the buzz that you crave. And not have to gamble to feel alive. I know that you are bang into your sport just as I am, and I really do wish you all the best. I know that football is one of the hardest sports to predict, It really has a hbit of kicking you in the balls, if you pardon the pun!!

Would appreciate it though if you could use less of the telling me that your betting tales, or I may have to avoid your diary, which I don't really want to have to do. Just my thoughts, hope you do not take offence as none is intended.

Keep strong

Ade

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Have just emailed you.

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