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Thanks f for that post and I know I can`t sort it all out.

I think that my niece finding the message on the phone has only hastened up the progress. I understand that he intended to leave in the New Year.

I have no idea where he is at the moment and as you can understand P is my main worry. I don`t think my getting in touch with him right now would so any good. He does have a brother and 2 sisters so not all alone. His Mother is very religious and I understand that she is unhappy about all of this and although he can stay with her he will get a hard time.

On the breakdown front, that is only a guess as it seems so unlike him and I am told he is broken and in a daze. If that is the case then it paints a very different picture, we will have to see.

Currently we are supporting from a distance and i am in a fortunate position that I can get in the car and drive there at any time.

I have already got advice and he can`t force her out of the home or indeed force a sale without a court order which I am told is very unlikely so at the moment P and the kids are safe.

They have enjoyed a massive income so there are going to be some adjustments there. However, all up in the air right now.

I will be posting here as things move forward. Thanks again f.

Good to hear you are keeping enough distance G,

I worries about you, you know 🙂 You are such a caring man, but sometimes people can cling to folks like you for dear life and depend on them to make it all better.

Sometimes it is a gift to lose material wealth, as you can only suffer great loss if you have a lot to lose. People of modest means cant rely on expensive distractions to soothe their emotions, but this is very healthy I think. Nice houses and cars cant make it all better.

Hope you are ok, and not being too much of a big worryhead!

Take care,

f x

Great. Now he has changed the pass word on the business account! Still nothing from him. Can`t wait to get up to them.

Hi Graham

I cant tell if you are more angry at your brother in law or upset(maybe a bit of both)

Anyway i think its great you are supporting P ,she must be devestated ,so near christmas too.I do think what freda has said makes sense time is a great healer you seem to think he will be back with his tail between his legs. I agree with you maybe one of those midlife crisis things.

Look after P m8 im sure she will appreciate it.All the best Jeff.

thanks for the lovely hug in words, on my diary Graham!

Hadnt read it before I came into chat. Appreciate you taking the time to give me a cheer up 🙂

I'll be alright, just being a bit moody, lol.

Nice chatting with you,

Take care,

f x

News flash!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Phone call from sis-in-law. He`s back, hmmm. Well it was theory 2 I guess. One night stand, got out of hand, turned his head. She still loves him and what ever makes her happy.

Not sure that the kids are very pleased, which kind of surprises me. Guess I ain`t thought it through. At least he understands that he has a lot of bridge building to do. It will take time........

Blimey G! its like hollyoaks round yours!

How are you faring in all of this?

Take care,

f x

Hi G,

Thanks for your post. I can appreciate why your niece is left with a lot of anger over his actions. For what it is worth, I reckon its a positive thing that she has left the household for a while. Obviously this is presuming that she has somewhere safe to go to. Feeling angry toward someone you have to share a roof with can be such an explosive thing!

Sounds like he has been a right old twit as you say, but hopefully her anger will subside given time.

Poor you! sounds like it is likely to be a rather tense visit. Take the kids out for a few beers and let them offload, then give em some of that wisdom of experience that you have, Uncle Graham 🙂

Hi young man

Hope your ok, just want to wish you a very merry christmas and a happy new year.

Thanks for all your suppot and kindness, you have been great. You are my cyber dad, lol!

take care and catch you in the new year. andrew

Big cyberhug for you!

Thanks for your friendship and support in my recovery thus far, I hope I can return the favour some day.

You are a very special guy Graham, hope you have a great Christmas.

Cheers!

f x

Good wishes to all that post here on Gamcare.

Hi Graham,

Thanks for all your support and advice this year. it has helped me so much.

Have a wonderful 2010,

DT.

Wishing you and yours a happy 2010.

W x

Happy 2010 Graham. Thank you for helping me in my recovery.

Jas x

Hiya Graham

A very happy new year to you mate, thanks for your post, gave me the sniffles, lol!

take care and i hope i catch you soon... ands