Swing low sweet chariot
Coming for to carry Murlo
Swing low sweet chariot
Hope and smiles do daily grow
I looked up at Mixer and what did I see
Coming for to carry us home
A band of 100 Day Club Angels
Coming for to carry us home
Mixer mon amigo I am ready to rock n roll
A thirst runs through my body and permeates my soul
My target date is May the 3rd and I am on a quest
Come wind, rain or sunshine I will strive to do my best
Stephen x
Well done Murlo. I'm so happy for you. Just keep the momentum going. It is easier to Devil free if we do all the right things which is what you have focused on. Never be complacent. It will try and creep up on you. All the best to all. Just for today.
22 days sinse my last b*t on the horses,feeling good and richer lol
I'm still gamble free and not feeling any desire to do so. Making efforts to get myself back into the job market and the financial side is going well (handed over control and have a debt management plan in process).
Still early-ish days and I know there will be some dark times ahead where I might be tempted - but trying to put a strong support around myself. I've had a couple of therapy sessions, last where I opened up and told stuff about my past that I had never told another soul, probably a catalyst for my secrecy and self-hate/destructiveness.
Well done all for the efforts you are putting in to hit the milestones.
*** Good afternoon! ***
And I hope you're keeping well! Apologies for my absence - I try to update daily - but am extremely tired of late to the point where I'm having to pick and choose what I spend my energy on! But there we are, I'm getting used to the meds and hopefully I'll feel a bit better soon.
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Ineffable - sounds like you're spinning quite a few plates right now! But, quite rightly, getting on with it, because that's the only way. Keeping GF is a genuine cherry on the cake of life; a reward for when the cake feels a bit half-baked at times.
Stephen - singing your wonderful words to that enigmatic tune in my head brought a tear to my eye. Beautifully written as always. And warmly welcomed back to our List of Aspiration - a great place to be.
Changing Habit - very wise words; we can wobble when approaching a milestone as weaknesses associated with the 'relief dividend' can ambush us if we're not careful. We must always be on guard.
Bigmug - Good to read, on Day 22, feeling good and richer - and that's just it, money genuinely starts to accumulate to the point we truly don't know what to do with it. Worse problems to have, of course, so long is we immediately put it to good use before we waste it away ... again.
HertsC - Welcome to our club! And with 126 g**bling-free days under your belt, you've made a cracking start to this more fulfiilling life. We're bless-edly anonymous here on these forums, one place you can truly share with judgement or recrimination. It's great to have you aboard as an instant Hon. Member!
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Application to the 100 day club received!!!!
Murlo, congratulations on successfully navigating 100 days g**ling free! This is a most meaningful result having passed three paydays in a row (reasonably assuming a monthly salary, of course). Plus you've done so with with and warmth and an abundance of generosity of spirit to fellow recoverers. We all salute you and great to have you as our latest Honarary member. Membership application approved 🙂 !
I'm sorry you had to wait until 'Dalmation Day' (Day 101) but wanted to get 100 clear days behind you!
And do let me know if you'd like a further milestone (date) added - purely optional!
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Our list of aspiration to a better life
Stephen - 3rd May 2020 - we're all with you, our friend.
HertsC - Instant Hon. Member 🙂 - welcome!
MikeD – 19th Apr 2020
Zoe – 10th Apr 2020
Bigmug - 29th Apr 2020
Debbie4 – 28th April 2020
Russ (Mark) - 2nd Feb 2020 ? 10 months GF! Fantastic!
Adam123 - Reached target ? new target --> 13th March.
Franco1875 - 19th Mar 2020
Spendlikewater84 - Hon. Member! ?
Ineffable - 21st Feb 2020
EsoxLucius - 28th Feb 2020
Mixer - 13th March 2020
LewisMG - 12th April 2020
Spendspendspend - Hon. member! ?
Boo - Hon. Member! Yeesss! Extra settling-in period --> 20th Feb! ?
Fighter1 - Hon. Member ! ?
Bertieboo - 10th Mar 2020
Fir tree - 28th Mar 2020
Changing habit - Hon Member ? --> new target 26th Jan 2021
Danpo 7th Mar 2020
Murlo 11th Feb 2020 🙂 New Hon. Member!
Determined to Stop 1st March 2020
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"Just for today, I chjoose not to g**ble. There's no point. Because if I win, I lose it and then some more. If I lose, well, I've lost anyway. Just for today, simple logic will stop me going down this non-sensical path."
Mixer
Mixer, thank you for approving my application ?
I would like May 4th as my next milestone please.
hi mixer, be it n update once a day or twice a week we will look forward to it(but rest up mate, if you're absent we will keep the thread going), all the best mate xxx
Mixer, you and this group are amazing!
I have had a tough week indoors, but seeing so many positive posts and people have kept me gamble free!!!
Thanks everyone
LMG
Wishing everyone a good gamble free weekend.
Over the years I have encountered many people with addiction issues centred on gambling and alcohol and believe that the vast majority of them had wonderful qualities which, in most cases remained untapped, discarded or hidden behind all the devastation.
And I believe that if compulsive gamblers and those with alcohol related problems could stop the self destruction and take a good look inside themselves, they would be surprised at all the excellent qualities, great potential and goodness that lies within.
Stephen x
*** Good evening! ***
I was taking a moment to reflect on what has been a rough and tumble start to the year news wise. It started with the end of Brexit, then the shocking Aussie wildfires, Harry and Megs doing their own thing, the coronavirus making itself known interspersed with Storm Ciara and, today, blowing around me and no doubt you, too, Storm Dennis. Oh, and just hitting the press, the very sad upsetting news indeed about Caroline Flack. RIP.
You never know what's going to happen in this life, to us or anyone else. There are two types of 'luck' in my eyes. There's the luck we can't do anything about, like being hit by a bus, or something out of our control. Conversely we could win the lottery, but it's 'luck', or 'fate', one way or the other.
And then there's luck we can steer, for better or worse. We can make conscious decisions to make ourselves or others more fulfilled or contented, or not. Improving the chances of a better life.
Whilst we navigate the minefields (and good stuff!) in life, let's count our blessings where we can, too, and try and make the best decisions to better influence what we can.
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Russ (Mark) - I've definitely (definitely!) marked you down for a new milestone of 2nd March. I'm sorry it didn't stick before - it will this time 🙂
Murlo - great minds think alike (see Mark, above!). A further milestone, there for the taking one valuable day at a time, there for the taking!
Adam - thank you for your kind words. Am seeing the docs again on Monday; can't continue with no energy, just insane. Never slept so much in my life! But determined to KBO (as Mr Churchill once said).
Lewis - it is a great bunch of people here, my friend, and delighted you're one of 'em! Glad our positivity is rubbing off on you; your spirit of determination is rubbing off on us, too!
Stephen - beautifully written words; we are all decent, vibrant, caring people just bursting to get out of our artificial suffocating g**ling shells. And you know what, occasional blips aside? We are doing just that!
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The best part of the post for me! Who's part of our lovely association?
Stephen - 3rd May 2020 - wonderful to have you back with us!
HertsC - Instant Hon. Member ? - welcome!
MikeD – 19th Apr 2020
Zoe – 10th Apr 2020
Bigmug - 29th Apr 2020
Debbie4 – 28th April 2020
Russ (Mark) - 2nd Feb 2020 ? 10 months GF! New milestone - 2nd March!
Adam123 - Reached target ? new target --> 13th March.
Franco1875 - 19th Mar 2020
Spendlikewater84 - Hon. Member! ?
Ineffable - 21st Feb 2020
EsoxLucius - 28th Feb 2020
Mixer - 13th March 2020
LewisMG - 12th April 2020
Spendspendspend - Hon. member! ?
Boo - Hon. Member! Yeesss! Extra settling-in period --> 20th Feb! ?
Fighter1 - Hon. Member ! ?
Bertieboo - 10th Mar 2020
Fir tree - 28th Mar 2020
Changing habit - Hon Member ? --> new target 26th Jan 2021
Danpo 7th Mar 2020
Murlo 11th Feb 2020 ? New Hon. Member! --> New Milestone - 4th May!
Determined to Stop 1st March 2020
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Someone once advised me: "Never go cold and never go hungry". Two things especially important as we hunker down at this particularly wintry time of year. Let's take care of ourselves and our loved ones.
"Just for today, I choose not to g**ble. Just for today, I will count my blessings."
Mixer
Mixer,
Please take good care of yourself. I really struggled on the same medication that you are taking. A whole lot better since I stopped tbh x
Mixer, I know I spat my dummy out when I relapsed but I wanna play again now I did 50 days. Please can I rejoin?
Oh that is awesome and has really cheered me
A big welcome to the one and only DramaLlama
Great to have you aboard
Stephen x
Sorry you are not feeling 100 % Mixer.
Everyone appreciates your hard work in running the club but please do remember that your recovery must be your primary concern.
Great update as always and thank you for that.
Stephen x
Wheeey....... ?????? Boo
*** Good evening! ***
And hope it's a good one and you've navigated the 'orrible weather which, at the time of writing, should be starting to head out to sea (good riddance). I hope you're safe and well.
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Ineffable - thank you for your post; sorry I missed it last time! And glad to see you're wish us and doing very well; but as always I won't put a hex on you because I know sometimes that reaching milestones can bring on their own stresses.
Stephen - thank you for your kind words; and I agree, great to have DramaLlama back. No flies on this lass, that's for sure, and a real wonderful spark for our group!
Murlo - thank you. Sertraline + cold + underlying condition putting me in a very tired place right now. Will visit docs!
Boo - boo to you too 🙂 going great guns!!!!
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Our group - list all mixed up - the order isn't important!
Here we all are; all with the same dedication; on different paths maybe, but with the same goal! If we fall, we help each other up. We are all good people getting better!
Welcome back DramaLlama!
Boo - Hon. Member! Yeesss! ? settling-in period --> 20th Feb!
Fighter1 - Hon. Member ?
Bertieboo - 10th Mar 2020
Fir tree - 28th Mar 2020
Changing habit - Hon Member ? --> new target 26th Jan 2021
Danpo 7th Mar 2020
Murlo 11th Feb 2020 ? New Hon. Member! --> New Milestone - 4th May!
Determined to Stop 1st March 2020
Stephen - 3rd May 2020 - wonderful to have you back with us!
HertsC - Instant Hon. Member ? - welcome!
MikeD – 19th Apr 2020
Zoe – 10th Apr 2020
Bigmug - 29th Apr 2020
Debbie4 – 28th April 2020
Russ (Mark) - 2nd Feb 2020 ? 10 months GF! New milestone - 2nd March
Adam123 - Reached target ? new target --> 13th March.
Franco1875 - 19th Mar 2020
Spendlikewater84 - Hon. Member! ?
Ineffable - 21st Feb 2020
EsoxLucius - 28th Feb 2020
Mixer - 13th March 2020
LewisMG - 12th April 2020
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"Just for today, I choose not to g**ble. I'm focussed and know this is the right thing for me."
Take care everyone!
Mixer
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