Fraud Charges

Hi Lily,

A very difficult scenario to provide advice upon.

A person is innocent until proven guilty and I am sure a robust defence and/or mitigation has been prepared. In a courtroom remorse is also looked upon favourably.

Any sentence could be immediate or deferred. Too many scenarios at this moment in time.

I wish you well and pass on strength in difficult circumstances.

Kindest Regards

Hi Lily,

So sorry that you have had such a tough time and so much to deal with.  It's hard to know how things will progress.

I suppose at least the waiting will be over soon and you will find what the outcome will be. Hopefully they will take into account that your husband had a serious addiction/mental health issues which led him to commit fraud. 

Sorry, I haven't been much help with practical advice but I really do wish you the very best. Hopefully at least once you know the outcome you can start to move forward.

Take care.

J 

Lily20

What I am going to say is not going to be easy to read however as a compulsive gambler who has been in the same situation I can only give you my experience.

I am a compulsive gambler who committed theft from an employer and going to prison was the best thing that happened to me otherwise I know I would have been dead by now. If your husband is still gambling he is no good to you or your family as gambling will take over his life completely.

It will be hard for him but you need to think what best for yourself and the children. I am not married anymore BUT I have a better relationship with my children being on the other side of gambling and prison.

Now I spent a few years inside and the only thing tat stopped me doing a 7-10yr stretch was to confess my guilt to the police. If the evidence is there then you need to prepare yourself for his prison sentence and you need to sit down with the children and explain this to them. Depending on their age they will know right and wrong, it will be hard and I will never understand what my ex went through or my children but he needs to own up and pay the consequences for this illness that's taken over him 

Thank you for your replies. The kids are in their teens and I will speak to them after Christmas. I knew this day would come and that he needs to take his punishment but it doesn't stop the hurt. I have stood by him but the lies are killing me. If prison is the answer, so be it. I just don't know what to do to make it easier for me or the kids x

Lily, ...clearly this is a serious case , and most people on here lie cheat but mostly drain their own funds , when a person ...has defrauded and cheated ' lots " of people , this transcends gambling addiction...

Me and children are also victims in this (which is my point). I came here for useful advice on how to cope in this situation as advised by Gamcare who I have spoken to for the last couple of years. I know what this site is for, I wish I didn't but there you go. Do you have someone you love who is lost, with mental health problems and gambling? It's not quite as easy  I fight between my love for him and my morals each and every day. I never said this was right. I am asking if anyone else had been through this, to help me and my children get through the next phase.