He's relapsed again. 13 years married, took a loan out and gambled it all. If I hadn't asked I would be none the wiser right now.Â
I can't support him again, I don't think I have the capacity. I will have a breakdown. I'm the breadwinner, the mental load carrier and mum to a 7yo and 10yo. If the kids weren't there I would have kicked him out but I can't. I had an abusive childhood, I have no family and the thought of being the one who breaks us up is beyond comprehension right now. Those kids are my everything.
So I've asked we separate but live together and raise the kids. Just for now, until I can work out what to do and whether there's anything worth saving. I love him but I'm beyond lost. I have no one to talk to. Has anyone tried this? Have you successfully managed to do this? Were you able to rebuild trust and get back together or was it a nightmare? Thank you.
Haven't been down this path entirely but when my wife first caught me out in my addiction she said she was done and needed time to work out what was best and I needed to get some help and deal with my issues, I started therapy, use gamcare community and made some great friends that helped me focus on my healing, that alone was enough for my wife to realise I was serious and stay but I don't know enough about your back story and the addictions damage to the marriageÂ
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