How do I build back trust with my partner

Hello LiamEU,

Thanks for sharing this.

It sounds like you’ve gone through a distressing time with almost losing your partner and step son and I can hear how determined you are to move forward and change.

A lot of people find re-building trust starts with being able to trust themselves again. Although it may be hard, finding some self compassion and being able to talk to yourself in a kind and accepting way will help you feel safer and happier, which will hopefully keep you motivated.

It can be hard to relay to others how much you want to change and quite often, a good way to re-build trust in relationships is through your actions. This could be through finding help and putting self exclusion / blocking measures in place.

Good communication can help too – being able to share how your recovery is going and being honest when you’re finding things hard. When someone can sense their partner / friend / family member is working in a dedicated manner on their recovery, they will be more likely to trust them – although it can take time.

I hope you can keep sharing your experiences and well done for acknowledging things need to change and for seeking help – it takes courage to do this.

All the best,

Claire