Mr P plays games compulsively too, i thinks its hard for them to just switch it all off, you've made great progress with financial control and mail and so on, well done to you.
Ga meetings would obviously benefit him, but its not nice facing up to oyur faults, so i can see why he feels uncomfortable, but most people after a couple of weeks do start to find them very supportive.
I put GA meetings on the non-negotiable list, along with the financial control, but thats because he refused to go to counselling, i let the counselling go, you have to give in somewhere i suppose, but like you i needed to know he was actively managing his problem, not just ignoring it.
perhaps, like when you want children to eat their veggies, you dont ask them if they want carrots with their dinner and wait for a yes or no, you ask then if they want carrots OR peas and then they feel in control and choose, but you have got them to do what you want too.
Keep in mind the progress you have made, enjoy that, you've done great.
Hi 028kel
I consider my weekly GA meeting as my weekly medicine. It reminds me that I am a CG, that I always will be. I am in recovery but that weekly reminder helps me to remember that I do have a problem. It is too easy to get complacent after a while.
The other side to the meetings are the new member's stories. When you hear their stories, see the grief on their faces, it reminds me of how I felt when I first walked through the doors. I do NOT want to feel like that ever again.
I used to sit behind a slot machine for 40 - 60 hours per week. Spending 2 hours per week attending a GA meeting does not seem too much to ask to me.
If he is so against GA, counselling is another option. Either one will help him face up to what gambling has done to him, to his family and your relationship...past, present and future. He needs one or the other, he will find it very hard to recover 'doing it on his own'.
Best wishes
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