a day and a night without gambling

Hello Jeff,

Get mad, get angry, get whatever you have to fight this addiction. As this addiction never sleeps. Good job on one day. Now double it and worry what happens after that.

Wishing you success.

AM

Nothing wrong with sticking a load of clothes in a pillowcases and using it as a punchbag. (we used to have a punchbag as a laundry bag, screwed up clothes are just right for punching), physical activities are a great tool for giving up, natural endrphins to give you a bit of the high your missing, self esteem boosted, fitness improved, time used up productively.

When you have got yourself into a position where you can afford it, join a boxing or matial arts class, ive seen them be really effective for helping people fight the addiction and compulsive people tend to be quite good at these sort of sports too, you practice more than others you get closer to perfecting techniques than others, it can be very rewarding. Try it.

Well done on the no gambling long may it continue , have you spoken to Gamcare ?

Hi Jeff,

Sorry I didn't check in last night, late finish and I didn't make my phone appointment with Payplan so didn't get to speak to them until this morning. Anyway, they have recommended an iva for me (which I am relieved about to be honest as the debt collectors can't contact me now assuming of course that it is approved). I see you are looking at a dmp - is that what they recommended for you?

Rach

Hi all
Yes rach they thought a dmp would be better as I have some income so hopefully the creditors will accept.
Also called councillors today and hopefully have everything in place in a couple of weeks.
Didn't gamble last night or today.
Mainly due to handing over all financial control to my ex partner but also because I didn't want to.
Going to take the plunge on Monday and go to a ga meeting to see if its for me

So it's just a waiting game for both of us then :o/

Well done you for handing over your finances, great that you have a good enough relationship with your ex to help with that. I haven't yet gone down the counselling route but think I probably should, something to think about anyway. GA meetings seem to split people, it's seems to be either a love it or hate it thing so it will be interesting to find out your thoughts after your meeting Monday.

Keep strong Jeff, and nice one for taking control of your situation 🙂

Rach x

Just had a urge to try my 3 digits on one of my registered credit cards......ffs I need that blocker In place asap.
One thing the thought lasted a very short time were as in the past it would if took total control.

Thanks for the encouragement rach it does help.
Hopefully we can help each other on this journey and even more people like us.
The only winning I want now is this habit gone and under control

Hi Jeff,

Absolutely we can help each other! Now, get the blocks in place mister, that way it won't matter if you have a little wobble, you won't be able to act on it. You can get this under control Jeff, you know you can. Good luck at GA on Monday and let me know how it goes 🙂

Rach x

Rach im sorry to have let you down but ive went and done it again twice.
Posted a new thread but wanted to tell your personally .
Im doing everything back to front at the moment. Debt help, ga and councillors then bloody gambling.

Hope ga is ok tomorrow night

Hi Jeff, you've brought me out of hibernation tonight because I'm in a bad mood but I couldn't not reply to you. Oh Jeff, I'm not going to judge you, I am just really sad for you. You are stronger than you realise, at the moment you don't think you can do this but I'm telling you that you can. Do you need the credit card to survive? Unless you are having to buy your groceries or pay the gas bill with it, cut it up. Self exclude now - while you are feeling dreadful it is easier to self exclude. Jeff, do this for you and do it for your kids, be the Dad that they deserve. Be the son that your mum deserves. Finally, be the Jeff that you deserve. You deserve to feel infinitely better than you feel right now my friend. I'm sure that you'll get so much support and advice tomorrow at ga that it's coming out of your ears, but be good to yourself and put the barriers in place to ensure no more slip ups before your meeting. One day at a time. You're getting your finances sorted which is another step towards a better frame of mind for you.

Supporting you always,

Rach x

As always rach
Your there for me.
All I can say is thank you.
Defo going to try and find the ga meeting tomorrow night.
Sort of dreading the part where I may have to talk about myself but im fine once the ice has been broken

You dont have to speak if you dont want to @ a GA meeting you can just listen

Hi Jeff, I'm not sure if you noticed but there are a couple more posts on the threads that you set up last night 🙂

Keep strong - ODAAT