Affected by partners gambling

Dear Claire,

Welcome to the Forum with your first post.

I can hear that you have had a difficult time not just with your partners gambling but also post-natal depression. You may benefit from some support for yourself. This situation is not of your creation (and you may not be together at the moment) but you deserve a time and space to have some non-judgemental support.

You can call the National Gambling Helpline any time on 0808 8020 133 and speak to an Advisor. We also have a Friends and Family section of this Forum. We have Friends & Family Affected by Gambling Harms Chatrooms 12pm on Tuesdays and 6pm on Thursdays.

Wishing you some peer responses soon.

Best Wishes,

Hi

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Your story really resonates with me. I live with my partner of 13 years who is a CG. In the beginning it was just a little bit here and there, however he then gambled a horrific amount of money, I ended up leaving as he was in lying and in denial. We got back together as he promised he has changed and ended up having a baby and the moment this happened the gambling started all over again.

Now he goes to betting shops almost everyday and lies constantly and now drinks in excess to drown his sorrows.

You're so brave to give him a choice to be honest or leave, that must have been incredibly difficult for you especially having a little one too. It's not what you imagined when you thought of your family was it, I honestly thought life would happier than it currently is.

My CG won't go to a group and has cancelled the counselling sessions. 

Does your partner go to meetings and/or counselling? Have you got family or friends you have been able to reach out to for support?

I tried to hide his problems for so long it started taking a major toll on me, so I think talking about it is so important. 

I have been recommended lots of resources on here to look at. 

Do you think if he moved back in with you, that you would be able to regain trust?

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Sorry to hear you story. As a recovering GA the biggest thing I can ever did was to sit down and be honest with my wife.

knowing it would break played on my mind massively before telling her. Deep down I knew that if I was going to move  on with our life together I had to tell her and break her/ risk my marriage before we could work together to move forward and make a go of things.

luckily for me she stood by me because of my honesty. All she ur finances are now shared and of my own back to a credit report each month to show her I haven’t been taking debt out.

if seems like you gave your partner an opportunity and they didn’t want to take it which is a real shame as having someone to support you makes it 1000 times easy and better in recovery.