Back Again Because Of Roulette

Hi Davey :))

Could you not have a word with you internet provider to see if they can help with blocking sites ? also what about downgrading your phone to a non internet version ? Also why can't you give full financial controll to your girlfriend ? Drastic times call for drastic measures ?

Thanks for the reply Alan. Ive spent the last 30min self excluding from more online casinos. I may have to give up the iphone if this happens again. I had asked her but we are in a relatively new relationship and she doesn't feel comfortable taking my bank card from me. Besides that im in a DPP with stepchange to the tune of £74,000 and obviously wouldn't want her financially liked to me as my credit is destroyed.

How do you fight the urges to gamble and how do you come to terms with the losses? These are the things i feel i need to know. Im a rational person and know i will never win and yet why can't i stop?

Maybe you could report your card lost and get your partner to rub off the 3 digits when the new one turns up at least you wouldn't be able to deposit online ? just a thought :)) .

The trouble with self exclusions is that there's always more sites popping up so the blocking software should stop those too if it's any good ? .

In all honesty regarding the urges and when they were quite strong in the early day's I'd just get on and do something / anything just to take my mind off of it until it past , I know it sounds stupid but I started decorating like mad when I got the urges and as they came thick and fast " The house ended up looking great " :)) .

The Losses are something you just have to let go of , if your anything like I was it's probably the one thing that dragged you back time and again ? , as gamblers we don't like losing very much so to admit you cannot beat gambling and let it take your money once and for all doesn't come naturally as we look for revenge but you really have to draw a line and let it go otherwise it will just eat you up .

As to the last bit , we all think were rational people but were also Compulsive Gamblers who " Cannot win because we cannot stop "

Alan, thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Thats a great idea with the card i will defo do that. I have gamblock on my laptop its my phone just now i think i may just give up the iphone an get a nokia 3310 and play snake rather than roulette 🙂

I think its the letting go of the losses thats holding me back. I think about the situation im in and how hopeless it feels and somehow convince myself that it can't get any worse so **** it and end up losing more. Yes i am a compulsive gambler i cringe at the thought of spending money on frivolous things yet will spend hundreds at a time watching a stupid white ball bouce around a wheel :'(

I think if your struggling that much at the mo then getting a housebrick instead of your Iphone would be agood call , if there's no acces via your phone then you can't gamble on i t can you and it's one less thing to worry over and I'm all for keeping things as easy as possible :)) .

It definately is the money side of thingfs that holds many of us back from just giving up and it's what kept me in the loop for so long , a couple of years gamble free have given me a lot more clarity to see thing for what they are but like yourself when I was in the deep crazy stuff I couldn't or just wouldn't have seen it at all , you said you feel that sometimes because of your current position " Thing's couldn't get any worse " but believe me they could get far worse and quite quicky too so the sooner you do something to address this properly the better .

It takes time to make a big change in your life but don't be afraid of it just embrace it as it will change your world , 2 yrs on for me and my life now and then is a million miles apart :))

Thanks Alan its comforting to hear from someone who has managed to stay free so long gives me some hope lol. Funny thing is all through my 20's i had no desire to gamble, i was acutely aware it was silly and it was something i never did then i had my 30th bday at casino and bam now im a compulsive gambler. I just want to be that man who at 25yr old would say nope not wasting my money on that rubbish. Oh how times can change...

I guess it doesn't take much to switch us from someone who's in control to a raving lunatic who'll throw all his or her money away without any thought of the consequences ? .

Thing's can change and take adownwood spiral very quickly and before we know where we are everything's turned to sh. te :((.

You can get back to where you want to be , "You just have to want to more than you want that next bet "

Take it easy Davey and I'll catch up with you soon :))