I have come to the end of road with gambling but I have felt like this before and it always drags me back in.
I have always been a small time gambler, few pounds here and there but nothing serious and hardly ever won. It was more a bit of fun watching the football type of thing. Last year I was lucky (possibly unlucky) to win a good bit of money from a small bet and it has snowballed from there.
In the past a fiver would be big money but in recent months I've thought nothing of throwing 500 on a football game or tennis. I have had a few wins but blown through my winnings from last year and started into my savings.
I've not lost it all but I need to get out, nobody knows about the wins or the losses and I don't think my wife could cope with it as she has her own mental health problems.
Is it stupid to think I can stop this on my own, I have looked at GA meetings that I could attend while I'm at work but it's all getting very deceitful.
WhatWayNow
Hi. You sound like you have recognised you have a problem and I think attending a GA meeting would be a good move. There should be one at a time /place to suit you. The people there will be a great support but I would also recommend telling your wife especially if u haven't yet damaged the family finances. Tho telling family is hard, sure she will be happy you told her and want to support.
I walked in to GA meeting in my own - a room full of men but the relief I felt was tremendous. But you'll be able to open up more at GA if you are not trying to keep it a secret. Some people can but personally I think it's will be easier for you if u tell your wife. Why not go to a few meetings first and take it from there. Good luck.
If you feel that the impact would be a trigger to your wifes mental health then seek to stop this now with GA.
With the suppport of others at GA you will hopefully be able to talk about this secret habbit if you feel telling your wife
would cause her a set back in her mental health.
Take action to stop this now. You can overcome this with support
Everyone is different, i have refrained from gambling on my own without GA just by being more pro active, taking up a new hobby or two, and from putting blocks in place, if you want to attempt to go it alone without telling your wife then you MUST put a kink in the chain somewhere, i self excluded off the sites i used for a year, so you should do that as a start, i also still limited myself to a £5 football bet on football a weekend, something alot of members would say avoid doing at all costs, but i never had a problem with sports betting, i never needed to chase if my £5 lost, if you have an issue with sports betting then the best thing would be to have £0 daily deposit limits or just exclude from them all.
Good luck
Yes agreed. I can not go to GA as I am reclusive and I have no partner but I find support here and in an hour of need someone is always around with wise words and good advice
Dell2u wrote: . I walked in to GA meeting in my own - a room full of men but the relief I felt was tremendous. But you'll be able to open up more at GA if you are not trying to keep it a secret. Some people can but personally I think it's will be easier for you if u tell your wife. Why not go to a few meetings first and take it from there. Good luck.
I dont know why I just dont jump into GA I did with drinking 22 yrs ago with AA and havent drank since . My Gambling was as bad as my drinking and is terrible, about 12 days off it now. 99.9% on line slots and poker. I cant do it alone thats for sure. If I self exclude from 26 sites ill find a 27th and if i break a laptop ill buy another
So report your card lost to the bank now ! get someone to scratch of the 3 number security code on the back and you will no longer have the ability to gamble online. Do it, trust me it stopped me
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