Do I have a problem?

Hi... Maybe this will answer your question....

For people who are controlled gamblers and not progressive gamblers the formula that is given as a maximum spend is as follows;

Your wage - pay all your outgoings and bills and debts then take out money for food and fuel so everthing is covered.

Then say if your lucky ВЈ100 a month is left over - your gambling money should be no more than 25% of this so on a ВЈ100 it would be £25 to gamble that month (an amount that will not affect adversely your way of life/family/finances)

someone with ВЈ300 a month left - could gamble a maximum of £75

someone with ВЈ50 a month left - could gamble £12.50 safely
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Finally the extra rules are;
any money won from the above is not seen as free betting money as this defeats the object of control and winnings have to be collected and used in a non gambling fashion

once the limit is spent - the next gamble has to be the following month earliest and never before.
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If you can adhere to that with no feelings of anger or resentment that time is up or you want to gamble more or re-gamble winnings or chase lost money then congratulations you are not addicted at this time and are a controlled gambler.

sonic boom wrote: Hi... Maybe this will answer your question.... For people who are controlled gamblers and not progressive gamblers the formula that is given as a maximum spend is as follows; Your wage - pay all your outgoings and bills and debts then take out money for food and fuel so everthing is covered. Then say if your lucky £100 a month is left over - your gambling money should be no more than 25% of this so on a £100 it would be £25 to gamble that month (an amount that will not affect adversely your way of life/family/finances) someone with £300 a month left - could gamble a maximum of £75 someone with £50 a month left - could gamble £12.50 safely Finally the extra rules are; any money won from the above is not seen as free betting money as this defeats the object of control and winnings have to be collected and used in a non gambling fashion once the limit is spent - the next gamble has to be the following month earliest and never before. If you can adhere to that with no feelings of anger or resentment that time is up or you want to gamble more or re-gamble winnings or chase lost money then congratulations you are not addicted at this time and are a controlled gambler.

I am sad to say that that isnt me, at all.

Maybe I am just in denile. Im so confused

Hi Synergy, you are not being stupid, and everything you written, i can relate to. i feel for you, i know the sickness you feel. you lose all track of how much your spending, lets hope we get a little comfort and support from other members and maybe one day we will be back in control. all the best to you. xx

Alsgirl1970 wrote:

Hi Synergy, you are not being stupid, and everything you written, i can relate to. i feel for you, i know the sickness you feel. you lose all track of how much your spending, lets hope we get a little comfort and support from other members and maybe one day we will be back in control. all the best to you. xx

Thank you. I actually feel worse now I have posted here. Its like this realisation has crashed down. I feel hideous.

The scary thing is I didnt loose track, I didnt even know!!! I've just checked my balance....and ive cried. I would have sworn under oath I put £20 on!!

Hi Synergy

I'm a member fo the forum team here, and I just wanted to put something up to let you know about our other support services you can access. It sounds like you've had a bit of a shock in thinking about all of this and posting on here, and I was thinking it might help you to have a chat with one of our helpline team. Sometimes people find it helps them calm down and get a bit of perspective on things, as well as helping them think about what they might do next.

The number is 0808 802 0133 and we are open 8am to midnight each day. It's a freephone number and the service is confidential.

You could also talk to someone online at www.gamcare.org.uk/netline

Best wishes

Rebecca

Forum Admin wrote:

Hi Synergy

I'm a member fo the forum team here, and I just wanted to put something up to let you know about our other support services you can access. It sounds like you've had a bit of a shock in thinking about all of this and posting on here, and I was thinking it might help you to have a chat with one of our helpline team. Sometimes people find it helps them calm down and get a bit of perspective on things, as well as helping them think about what they might do next.

The number is 0808 802 0133 and we are open 8am to midnight each day. It's a freephone number and the service is confidential.

You could also talk to someone online at www.gamcare.org.uk/netline

Best wishes

Rebecca

Hi there,

Thank you for the reply. I think shock is an understatement.

I took you advice and I'm talking to someone who has suggested talking to a 1 on 1 person. But I feel ridiculous, like there are other people who need it more. But through all of this I have just signed up to sky casino and was hovering over the deposit button!

thanks again

How have the past couple of days been synergy? quite alarming when you are flicking from your gamcare post back to a casino that you've just signed upto, although i have done the same flicking from a wheel back here reading comments, that to me was a big 'w*f am i doing' moment, i dont think deep down you have a serious problem but it sounds like your on the brink of it all falling in on you, you need to get to the source of the problem, the time of day you gamble? where? which sites? and start getting rid of the sources, if you really want to still cover up from your husband why don't you say you had a small bet and your sorry but suggest he takes control of the finances for a while so you don't do it again? its hard to give good advice when everyones situation is different, plus im not exactly one to be preaching yet myself, 25 days gamble free and it does get easier, you just need to be honest with yourself before anything else, don't throw your marriage away, pay the loan of when you get paid and move on, only this time have some barriers in place for when you next fancy that '£20 which could be £400' 5 years time divorced and in the thousands of debt you say your currently not in? think about it. Good luck and enjoy your weekend.

I have just joined this and I can't beleive I would ever be in this position. I very recently started playing games online and very very quickly just could not stop. The next day I felt really bad and it started to have a negative impact on my relationship with my partner as I was spending all my pay. I am very anxious at the moment and feel really bad and stupid. I should have known better. I have a very good responsible job and I don't undertsand why I am acting like this. Very stressful

dontchase wrote:

How have the past couple of days been synergy? quite alarming when you are flicking from your gamcare post back to a casino that you've just signed upto, although i have done the same flicking from a wheel back here reading comments, that to me was a big 'w*f am i doing' moment, i dont think deep down you have a serious problem but it sounds like your on the brink of it all falling in on you, you need to get to the source of the problem, the time of day you gamble? where? which sites? and start getting rid of the sources, if you really want to still cover up from your husband why don't you say you had a small bet and your sorry but suggest he takes control of the finances for a while so you don't do it again? its hard to give good advice when everyones situation is different, plus im not exactly one to be preaching yet myself, 25 days gamble free and it does get easier, you just need to be honest with yourself before anything else, don't throw your marriage away, pay the loan of when you get paid and move on, only this time have some barriers in place for when you next fancy that '£20 which could be £400' 5 years time divorced and in the thousands of debt you say your currently not in? think about it. Good luck and enjoy your weekend.

Hi there,

Thank you for the reply. The past few days have been awful. I didnt deposit anything, I had the w*f am I doing moment. I toldd my husband that I had had a small bet but I think he was right and I have a problem. I have told him he now has to take control of my money. I thought he would be so angry, but he actually looked relieved.

Yesterday Without even thinking I had downloaded my favourite bingo app on my phone, which I had deleted. I was just sat there a little bit bored and thought oh I could have a few spins. I deleted it as soon as I realised what I was doing, and after reading here have self excluded.

I got in touch with the people here and they suggested a one to one arrangement but I couldnt pick up my phone when they called. I will try again.

I have come to the crushing realisation that I have a much more serious problem than I thought, and i dont think its just to do with gambling, I think this is a symptom. I have a severe lack of control and I dont know why. That is what scares me the most.

I have a happy life, an amazing husband, beautiful child and job I love. What the f**k is happening to me?

Synergy wrote:

[quote=dontchase]

How have the past couple of days been synergy? quite alarming when you are flicking from your gamcare post back to a casino that you've just signed upto, although i have done the same flicking from a wheel back here reading comments, that to me was a big 'w*f am i doing' moment, i dont think deep down you have a serious problem but it sounds like your on the brink of it all falling in on you, you need to get to the source of the problem, the time of day you gamble? where? which sites? and start getting rid of the sources, if you really want to still cover up from your husband why don't you say you had a small bet and your sorry but suggest he takes control of the finances for a while so you don't do it again? its hard to give good advice when everyones situation is different, plus im not exactly one to be preaching yet myself, 25 days gamble free and it does get easier, you just need to be honest with yourself before anything else, don't throw your marriage away, pay the loan of when you get paid and move on, only this time have some barriers in place for when you next fancy that '£20 which could be £400' 5 years time divorced and in the thousands of debt you say your currently not in? think about it. Good luck and enjoy your weekend.

Hi there,

Thank you for the reply. The past few days have been awful. I didnt deposit anything, I had the w*f am I doing moment. I toldd my husband that I had had a small bet but I think he was right and I have a problem. I have told him he now has to take control of my money. I thought he would be so angry, but he actually looked relieved.

Yesterday Without even thinking I had downloaded my favourite bingo app on my phone, which I had deleted. I was just sat there a little bit bored and thought oh I could have a few spins. I deleted it as soon as I realised what I was doing, and after reading here have self excluded.

I got in touch with the people here and they suggested a one to one arrangement but I couldnt pick up my phone when they called. I will try again.

I have come to the crushing realisation that I have a much more serious problem than I thought, and i dont think its just to do with gambling, I think this is a symptom. I have a severe lack of control and I dont know why. That is what scares me the most.

I have a happy life, an amazing husband, beautiful child and job I love. What the f**k is happening to me?

You are simply going through the motions, everyone posting on here has had them unless in the family and friends category, we've all sat there staring at the wall with only gambling thoughts plagueing our head. Its such a split second decision that can set off such a downword spiral. It sounds like you are doing everything right so far in the sense of telling your husband and giving him control of your finances. Keep as many blockers in place and time will heal you, good luck.