Does it get better

Here's some more about me I work full time long hours for not great money and stil spend every penny I've got without regard I am now thousands on debt couldn't tell you the exact figure as I have payday loans all over the place life just gets so unbearable all because of gambling someone once told me to get angry at it and trust me I am angry at it and I want to stop this is the most dertermined I have been

again thanks for listening

Hi Dan1984, I am not in a position to give advice really as I have finally finally just come to the end of my gambling life. I am currently seeing a counsellor regarding my gambling it has taken me 14 sessions and whilst i am in this programme i was still gambling losing a further £K20. So does it get better ?.......................... I hope so, if you read on here the people who have been on here a long time will tell you it does, so I take that thought with me to-day. Good luck on your quest to stop, you really really have to want to stop, or I guess the alternative is to lose everything, and all sense of respectability you have, ending up sleeping rough. I don't wan't to lose everything, I have lost an almighty amount of money, but I have reached the end, done what I should have done 5 years ago, K9 blocker on computer - self excluded from 12 local bookies shops last night, closed my last on-line casino account for five years, cut up my casino membership card, wrote them a letter to them asking for nationwide self-exclusion and continuing on a weekly basis with my counselling. This is the only way to save me from bankruptcy. Good luck

Thanks and I really do want to stop taking it one day at a time alls I can do

Hi you, welcome to recovery 🙂 The only way to move forward now is to draw a line under your past! You can quit this, people on here are proof of that & there is advice in abundance between these pages! Including stuff on debt management & friends/family support if your OH would benefit from it!

First & foremost, you need to break the Time-Money-Location triangle as removing one prevents you from gambling! You can do this with self exclusion, handing over finances or just being too d**n busy!

One Day At A Time is exactly right...Today is the day you can control, the yesterdays are gone & tomorrow will just be a new today! You can get your life back by choosing 'No' - do it while you are still young! Be strong - ODAAT

Thanks for the advice really good got through my first gamble free day yesterday so that's good plus I have handed over my finances to oh so that's helping to just need to keep myself busy whilst he is at work and I off think I will clean flat top to bottom that should do it

Well my first test has arrived with my oh having my money there has not been an option to gamble though this morning a cheque arrived in the post for me and I'm thinking I could cash it in one of those shops and no one will ever know but I need to stop myself

right am off to walk the dog then I must pay this cheque into my bank let the oh know and then he can get it when it clears fingers crossed it works out that way

It will because you will make it 🙂

Well done for getting through the 1st day 🙂

I am sure it was hard handing them over but it absolutely worked for me! I did spend the 1st while after surrendering them however plotting with the urges as to how I could gamble & not be found out, I'm so glad that I never gave in! They still come occasionally but I don't entertain them now I am strong enough to fight them! I think this is a very important step for you, doing it should make you feel proud!

Cleaning seems to be a common theme among people keeping busy, sadly I am not one of them 🙁 I have however taught the mutt how to wave, shake hands, drop & roll over all for the cost of a £1 bag of treats & a few bits of kibble!

If you need any cleaning tips 'I wished' is our resident window expert & I'm sure she would be more than happy to point you in the right direction 🙂

I look forward to hearing you put a smile on the bank manager's face today! Keep strong - ODAAT

Thanks just got home bank manager is smiling and so am I was hard but I did it

& not sure if it helps any but I too am grinning from ear to ear...You have just made my day 🙂

The little things mean so much more to a CG in recovery than they ever could to 'normal' people!

Well done 🙂

Awwww mate that means a hell of a lot thanks that's made my day

Congratulations on your 1st week 🙂

I'm gonna be taking a break from the forum for a bit so thought I'd drop by & let you know so you don't think I'm abandoning you! If you ever feel like it, there are plenty of diary's on here (duncanmac & I wished are deffo worth a visit) to post on & Bornagain has a 2015 challenge that has lots of great advice on it, as well as a thread on tips to keep busy (NT).

Keep strong & keep making the right choices - ODAAT