Hi my name is Andrew Richards compulsive gambler.I was 92 days free until yesterday when i found the back of my cards details well blew the lot!!! I spent the loan money and my phone bill im now overdrawn i thought i never get back to them days. Xmas is looming my boy will be 2 in 2 weeks time my partner isn't having anymore i don't blame her shes angry another thng ruined i aslo blimey it gets worse smashed up the ipad i think it was me saying get the f**k out my life as gamblers we find access to get on the net so i start again hurt what i have done i feel lower than i ever been the family has been blown apart and yet i still gamble.
Andrew
Well done for being so brutally honest. What caused you to relapse ?
What made you want to stop 92 days ago ?
You have to accept that you can never ever gamble again! You have got yourself into a mess and your family are losing out. This is compound long your guilt and making you feel even more unhappy. The unhappiness will lead you to try and escape, and return to gambling, without access to funds and the chance to win back your losses you will get moody and put further pressure on your family.
It is not easy to stop gambling. Coming on here and counting the days is a start, but often there are deeper issues causing the gambling. You need to find this reason.
Are you happy in life ? Is your marriage good ? Do you have any sick relatives ?
There are lots of reasons and a counsellor will help you with this. Failure to achieve this will result in a lifetime of deceit and lies. You will lose your wife, you will lose the respect of your children, you will never achieve any of your dreams.
Call gamcare, go to your GP, just ask someone for help
Swallow your pride and do it for your family as they will benefit from this as greatly as you
Hello Arich82 and welcome to the forum.
Well done on 92 days gamble free and I am sorry to hear things are so difficult due to relapsing. It may help you to put some other safeguards in place to help you to continue to move forwards. It’s a good step to restrict cash and cards as you did. Another step can be to block how you are gambling. From what you say on your post you gambled online there are steps you can take to self-exclude from gambling sites or you can use a software to block gambling sites form your devices.
http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do/self-exclusion#.VBwD4_ldXww
http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do/blocking-software
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