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Hello Johnconnor9

Welcome to the forum and thank you for posting.

You seem to be having a difficult time at the moment with feelings of unhappiness and depression. Even though you mentioned having a wife two wonderful children and a sucessful career. It seems that your gambling and drinking is affecting your life.

To help you deal with those feelings or remorse and despair please call our freephone helpline on 0808 8020 133 and speak to one of our advisers for some support and help.

And please do keep posting so that we can see how you are getting on

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I used to have a drink problem but that is now reasonably under control. I do no damage to anyone other than myself when I drink which may sound odd but I don’t drink a lot I just drink enough to relax.

However when I gamble it escalates out of control. I will call that helpline and I will keep checking this forum. My family loves me and I have their support but it’s not enough. I feel if I am constantly reminded of the depression it causes it might stop me from gambling. It’s a horrible thing. I have registered and self excluded myself from every website I can possibly find.

I have cut my bank cards up and I am going cash only from now on. My gambling escalates online. I never step foot in a bookies as i feel dirty going in. Shame I don’t feel that way about online gambling.

I’m going to stop and I am going to be happy. I just need a bit of help and reminders of how c**P it can get.

Thank you for your reply also. It’s nice to know that someone is listening and understands.

Hi there, Your story sounds similar to mine, I too have a wonderful family and doing well in my career...however something is missing and I don’t know what , this gets me down and I end up gambling as it give me a thrill ...until the last year where I started to gamble to chase losses and have now lost thousands...the fun has def stopped. I suggest you try get some counselling via GamCare to understand why you feel like you do. I’ve recently also found a hobby and trying to focus on that - get something outside the normal routine of work and family - I found for me that I turned to gambling to escape from that and now I have something else. I’ve been gamble free for 6 weeks. I do get urges and think I deserve a big win due to my gamble free days, but have put in place blocks that restrict access to cash - this give me time to think about the sick feeling of losing , specially the night I lost 20k....believe me that reminder stops me...never want that feeling again and have accepted that even if I win, I probably will go back and lose it all. Keep posting and I’m sure others will share their experience and advice, and support you though this.

rupidoda wrote:

Hi there, Your story sounds similar to mine, I too have a wonderful family and doing well in my career...however something is missing and I don’t know what , this gets me down and I end up gambling as it give me a thrill ...until the last year where I started to gamble to chase losses and have now lost thousands...the fun has def stopped. I suggest you try get some counselling via GamCare to understand why you feel like you do. I’ve recently also found a hobby and trying to focus on that - get something outside the normal routine of work and family - I found for me that I turned to gambling to escape from that and now I have something else. I’ve been gamble free for 6 weeks. I do get urges and think I deserve a big win due to my gamble free days, but have put in place blocks that restrict access to cash - this give me time to think about the sick feeling of losing , specially the night I lost 20k....believe me that reminder stops me...never want that feeling again and have accepted that even if I win, I probably will go back and lose it all. Keep posting and I’m sure others will share their experience and advice, and support you though this.

I lost about 6k over the last 3 months. It breaks my heart that I could have spent that money on my girls but it’s gone now.

one thing I can say is I didn’t gamble over the weekend but he’ll me it was hard not too. I know I won’t get back what I have lost but it just feels like I am missing something as well. I keep saying to my wife it’s the feeling of having something I didn’t work for. Something different. Some men do drugs have affairs etc but my Demon is gambling. It doesn’t help when it’s everywhere and everyone I know does it under control.

i came on here now because I thought about gambling. Just 100 quid my brain said, no one will miss that and if I win 500 then I can treat my girls. Deep down I know I would have lost it. So here I am!

02daviesr wrote:

Boredom come into but I do not know if that is the sole reason. I love the trill of it. I need to replace that with something else.

I know exactly how you feel, tonight I’ve lost 50% of this months wages, and some savings that I’d put aside for my new house.

for me it tends to be in the evenings when the Mrs is asleep. I think I need to find something to fill the gap, reading or some other hobby.

Is is there anything you could do?

I find that part of it is boredom but mostly its more the thrill of it.

I just need to replace that feeling.

I am not joking, I was thinking before I did so well getting through the weekend and then bam my inner Demon wanted to gamble and then I was looking at ways to do so without the missus finding out.

See thats what this addiction does, it makes you devious and horrible. So I thought sod it I wont gamble (this time probably and came on here to see two people had responded so it made me feel better about myself.

So thankyou for your responses. Talking to others who understand this S***e addiction may just help me.