Hi guys
So. Not content with losing £30k over the last 8 weeks
I yesterday decided to not do it again after losing 1k in about 30 seconds on slots on online gambling I said that’s enough then spend the entire evening reading on here as a non member about people’s storys all the same as mine the money these sites make is rediciulas Anyway My 800 kicked into my bank at 00.00 and it’s all gone already Means today’s direct debits will probably bounce Why didn’t I stop like I wanted to I can’t see a way out I am in so much debt now I can’t pay it back without winning it back but every penny I put in I just lose and lose again Struggling to cope Just recovering after a stroke and am blaming my brain injury but it’s me that’s done it I can’t pay the 30k back unless I win it’s a nightmare and I can only sleep about 2 hours a night worrying
the money is work money. It’s my business but it’s gone I know that but I needed it to pay the tax man who is now over due and I thought I was being clever flipping it as I did so well the first few weeks of gambling I escalated the bets higher and higher but just lost every time I bet £25 a spin and never won with £2k of spins the minute I put £2 on it would return £50 which would annoy me so I would try higher bets again 🙁 I do know how stupid I have been but I can’t see what to do don’t say phone debt line people as self employed people can’t be helped like that and they don’t sort out hmrc debts
I wish I had died that night I had the stroke none of this would of happened and the money would still be in the back the fear of him coming for that money and I have soent it on gambling on nothing is horrific but I just can’t stop I will have to gamble tomorrow’s money when it comes in tomorrow night on the off chance it will win something it has to surely as I have don’t nothjng but lose
Hello Justanothergambler,
Well done for joining the forum and sharing this post.
I appreciate that at the moment you feel caught up in chasing your losses and you have doubts about the value of obtaining debt advice, but please look at this link in case it has some relevance for you: https://www.stepchange.org/debt-info/self-employed-debt-advice.aspx
If you decide to stop gambling, you could self-exclude from your gambling accounts and filter your internet access to make it less easy to create new gambling accounts. If possible and appropriate, it may help to open up to someone trustworthy in your life, perhaps a relative, in case allowing that trusted person to oversee your finances helps to create more accountability and inhibition of your gambling: http://www.gamcare.org.uk/get-advice/what-can-you-do
You mentioned that you are recovering from a stroke and that your situation is creating a lot of anxiety for you. Please use the support of your local NHS.
You can call us on 0808 8020 133 if you'd like more support or details of local free services.
Take care,
Forum admin.
It’s the circle of chasing losses. I can’t get out of. £1700 up yesterday and gambled the lot and lost it all. But I needed the money so I am going to try this. Wait till Friday night and try and play £500 if I haven’t gambled all week till then and hope that has a return. I know I am too far down the hole I will never get all this money back but hopefully I will have a bit of a win. I just can’t get back to the surface of having no win ever again
Thank you for your reply. I can’t believe how many family’s are being devestated by gambling. Why do we do it. I won and lost and then won but that win I should of stopped then. Stopped about 15 times. But I keep going it’s awful but now I am so far in only gambling can help me
So sorry to read your story. I hope you are physically recovering well from your stroke.
We have all been there with chasing losses. It's so difficult for the brain to accept that it actually has the opposite effect. You could take that £500 on a Friday and pay it to your debts instead of gambling. Even if you win you will only continue to gamble the winnings again until they are gone. That's what happens, that's why we are all in these situations. We have all 'won' at some point, and have all said when we win £xxx we will stop... then we do win £xxx, but we don't stop, we then think we are on a roll, we can carry on winning.
It's so hard to get rid of that voice telling you to keep gambling, after a run of bad luck we must be due a big win soon right?
I'm sure when you were a few £1000 in losses you felt that it was bad enough and never expected to get to where you are. But think how easily that happened, and how easily you could double or triple your debt by trying to gamble your way out of it.
After a year gamble free I thought I'd try that. But ended up worse off and in more debt. Now I'm trying to pay that back and it feels good. I hope you can get some good financial advice. It might mean opening up to someone, seeking finance (while you can and before the bad credit and pay day loans hit like they have with many of us). Or contact the HMRC, explain you've been unwell and run into financial trouble and ask what they can do for you to help you pay it back over time.
L x
Spend that 500 on anything but gambling that's myadvice....
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I spent £750 and won nothing. I could smack myself deep down I knew it would happen and still Carried on because it might even win the 750 back. Stupid stupid stupid. I will never learn. Gutted
Mate, thanks for replying to my post, sorry about replying late to you, I went through a massive gambling binge session. Don’t worry about the past. I dont own, but I currently run a buisness (and now after telling my family about the gambling problem, I will never inherit it). Call HMRC and ask them for monthly installlments. Our money has gone we won’t get it back, but we will both stop this habit together. I will keep in touch with you on here regularly to make sure we are ok.
Stanpaul is right we got this if we stick together
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