Online slots

Hi Sherie,

I'll start with the comments at the end of your post. You can bring this addiction to an end. Others on this Forum are doing just that and you can bring it about as well. Believe me it is possible.

You are still managing to gamble so I feel you need to put your finances in a family member's hands. Perhaps you can confide in that same person ? You've got to make sure that you put measures in place to prevent gambling ever taking place. You will continue to get strong urges for a while but these will lessen. It's very much one day at a time for you.

As sure as eggs is eggs your partner is going to find out about you using his credit card. If I were in your shoes I'd choose my moment and tell him before he sees the statement. You may have to do some serious apologising to him and make some serious proposals to pay the money back over a period of time.

I can't predict what your partner will say or do but it does seem like common sense to tell him as soon as possible. Only you know when to choose your moment to do so.

Over a period of time you will be able to save up the money you owe your 4 year old. The guilt will ease for you about this aspect as time passes. Don't beat yourself up about what's happened. You could arrange a special treat at some point in the future anyway.

Keeping yourself busy can help whilst beating this addiction. Visit relatives. Do sports. Take up hobbies.

Keep a diary on the Forum. Join the 2015 Challenge.

I'm on Day 34 of not gambling and feel better as each day goes by. The 2015 Challenge has helped me greatly.

Take it one day at a time and you can really turn your life around. It can be done. People who post on here are proof of that.

There may be other posts offering advice for you. I just thought I'd offer some encouragement in the meantime.

Take Care.

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Hi sherie,

My gambling problem is also because of online slots im 24 and have been playing them since I was 18. The best thing you can do is self exclude from every site you possibly can. It's very important that you also tell them that you have a problem gambiling that way you will never be able to open accounts with them again, I know some sites will only self exclude you for 6 months and after that you'll be able to reopen them. Lucky for us a lot of the sites are linked and when you do try and join a new site you sometimes find they are a sister site to a site you have already self excluded from so you are unable to sign up.

I managed to stop gambiling for four months but I relapsed and have manged to start losing money playing poker instead. It has been about 4months since I played any online slots as I was focusing on poker instead, but tonight gave the slots one more shot and lost £700 in a couple of hours and have left my self with no money, For me that has really made me realise that I do not want play them anymore I manged 4 months without them I can easily do it again. I self excluded my self straight away and that was the only site I had left open with slots on. Now my problem is with poker all I've done is replace slots with something else. You have to realise you will never win back what you have already lost and I am the same, Yes you can win on the slots but do we ever withdraw? no we don't and we play u till every last penny is gone and that's because we have a problem. It's horrible to actually have to admit it but we need to realise that slots are a fools game and the only outcome for us is we lose.

Good luck and take care

All fantastic suggestions here for you Sherie. All I can add is the withdrawal process you also have to worry about. Firstly, a lot of sites only allow you to withdraw a certain amount each week/month and leave other 'winnings' in 'pending'. This was too tempting for me so I ALWAYS ended up spening it so there was no point me gambling as I never saw any money going back into my account. Secondly, you have to produce proof of who you are so you would have to send your husbands proof of ID and that would be fraud so be careful. Thirdly, when I opened new accounts with the same company I would be caught out with their T&Cs as because I had previous accounts they always had a get out clause for not paying. It took me ages for this to sink in!! Fourthly, as mentioned previously by AS91 a lot of thesesites have sister sites so the T&Cs still covered them. I played on a lot of Neogames sites and they wouldn't pay out which made me angry and gamble more!! I have seen the light now and am not going to give the b••••••• more of my money. excuse the language!! I am in the process of arranging counselling through Gamcare (i feel embarrassed but I have to do it because i have issues to deal with that make me gamble).

install K9 on your computers to block all gambling sites, it's easy, free and get someone else to put the password in so you can't change it. Give someone you trust all your money, in any form, bank cards, cash, cheques, whatever it takes, I have!! it seems the only way. Most of all, be honest, tell your partner, never lie to those that trust you, and never trust those that lie to you...That's my motto.

I've been gambling for over 35 years and joined this group this week, I've lost 100's of 1000's of £'s, trust me, you only ever win when you STOP! Keep strong, and I now live each day at a time, write every day down as a number, where you can see it, and beat these demons away, remember, only you can do it, but we ALL want to see you succeed! I never end with 'good luck'...there is no 'luck' involved...be successful!

Deanboy is right, i was badly addicted to online slots, i mean really bad. You need Gamblock, it's about 30 quid a year but it's my saviour. Try and open a gambling site and it closes down the web page. I couldn't stop, i'd self exclude on one site and open another account on another. I think i've played every online casino going and they're all as bad as each other in the end. Sure you can win big but it's rare, i won what some might consider a large win, i gambled it away again plus tens of thousands more. The money is just ammo that dires up, it's the wasted time and awful feeling when you can't play that i don't miss. The money will come back in time when you stop gambling. It's not as hard to stop when you get up each day and don't gamble for one day at a time. Fill your time with positive things like the gym, cooking, going out, reading, watching films, anything that takes your mind off gambling. They want you back, they want everything you've got to give them, they'll take your money, your house, your life if you let them. Everyone i ever knew was having an awful time playing slots but just couldn't stop, if you think everyone else is winning and having fun you're dreaming. The best thing you ever do from now on in your life is to stop playing slots, you're not living, you're making your life a misery and those around you. And stop beating yourself up, you didn't know any better because you couldn't stop, now you're at the point where you know it's becoming a problem and want to do something about it. You're still very young and will have a great future if you try hard to sto. Try and go to a GA meeting, if you can't then definately get Gamblock. Also try and just get a cash card from your bank so you can't gamble online, it means you can only take cash out of a hole in the wall. Put measures in place to help yourself, give your finances over to someone else for a while. Above all don't give up, you're not a failure, i plus many many more have done what you've done, you're not alone. I've just saved up more money than my biggest win on the slots, so there's hope for you girl because i was badly addicted, i mean bad.

Online slots were also my kryptonite, especially after I won 66K with 10€. Just like Poblwc said, they would only let me take out 4K a week. So I ended up throwing away 30K like it was nothing, and as soon as I had withdrawn it all my hunger for gambling increased. I mean come on 66K on a 10€ deposit?? The sad truth is I wish I had never won that money. When I won, it was a short lived happiness, but it made me even more depressed because it wasnt 'enough'. It never will be. The odds of my winning that much again are very small, and I was REALLY lucky to hit that jackpot. It ruined me even more though, so was it really so lucky?

So my justification now to stop is exactly that. I could win big, but it would never be enough, so why bother. Living in constant debt is not worth hoping for a chance to hit that 'big one'. I make enough money to live a nice life if I don't gamble, so why do I even need to win money in the first place? These online slots are terrible and bring nothing but misery.

I am just like you, these things are so addicting. But stay strong. I am only on Day 4 but I feel better allready. Just come to this site every day and check in. If I can get through this, then I will be happier than any jackpot could make me.

brennzky, 66k is a nice win, the truth though is i know people who have won those figures and were really happy for a split second, until they realised they'd lost 100k overall so were 34k still down! It's madness but your post was interesting, it let's people know that don't win that much that if you do it's the same amount of misery and pain in the end. How can you offer a big jackpot then only pay 4k out a week? that's simply terrible, they know you'll continue to play and give it all back. If you owed them 66k they'd want it in one go i'm sure. You said 'i make nough money to live a good life so why bother in the first place', well that's a big statement, that hits on the addcition and the brain being a little off key. It's ego, it's that dream, it's that what if i hit the big-time, without it life can seem very dull, that's the thinking that must change. Well done for realising what's going on in yourself, and your post will help many people to see that even people that win large sums are still having problems. This might not be of any help to you but you've even helped me and made me feel better about myself. Thank you.