What to do

If only life was a simple no problem, fall in love, stay in love, all tied up with a bow on top, everyone follow the rules order of business eh?

Only you know how you feel about your relationship and any advice given is personal for that person and their set of circumstances.

My wife forgave me and we lived a very happy life, until we didn't because of my complacency and she finally had enough. I'm talking multiple relapses and illegal activity but also needing to protect our children from homelessness. If you've reached that point already then do what you need to do but understand it's an illness and this is about him, not you. Would you hope he would stand by you if you had a problem or not?

Good luck in coming to a decision.

Chris.

Hi thank you for ur advice I have thought about if I was in his position b that’s why we are still together I wanna support him 100% n I will even if we split up I have told him this he is or seems to be doing everything he can at the mo it’s just my feeling I’m struggling with is it better to stay n then he may relapse I know that’s a chance I have to take but how do I cope with feeling like this I don’t want him near me n I feel like my feelings fir him are not there anymore

Hi Diane maybe you should seek some counselling just for yourself. I'm pretty sure that the Gamcare advisors can help you with this. Other than that give it some time ask him to give you a bit of space so you don't feel pressured. My husband swore at me for a week took his wedding ring off, then just ignored me for a while but once he saw that I was really doing everything possible to recover and change we started talking. Our relationship is better now than before and now I'm being honest about everything I'm more on an equal footing with him. Best wishes I hope you find a way forward, but you can't stay with him because you want to "fix" him you have to want to help him "fix himself". Best wishes

Hi I do want to help him fix himself no have told him he has to do it for himself no one else ...he has always been a very honest person we both have n he knows how much I hate the smallest of lies n to do this ...we talk openly all the time always have apart from his gambling when he was gambling which was the last 19 months everything else was fine between us 

Hi Diane maybe just give it some time then 10 days is not long, but don't discount getting some help for yourself. Often talking to a stranger about things like this is really helpful. Good luck

Thank you that’s why I’m on here fir advice 

Hi Diane,

I have lived in a very normal world prior to being with my partner, no gambling, no debts, mortgage paid and then boom after living with him for 18 months he had gambled a massive amount of money that he didn't have. My reaction was o*g, what on earth am i doing, get rid of him! I kicked him out but he has no family whatsoever, no-one to go to and ended up in a cheap B&B. I met him after work one evening and i couldn't watch him walk away and brought him back home. I loved him and had to help him. We went straight to the Drs and he was put on anti-depressants, we called here and both had counselling seperately, sourced a GA group that was weekly, registered on Gamstop, took away any access to money and basically i took the lead and 12 months on we are her and he's about to get his 1 year pin from GA and in the open meeting i will be right there clapping.

This is just my story and i hope it can give you some hope xxx

You have both done fab we’ll done ...how do u trust him again? I-cant even look at my man n I’m always thinking he lied to me for 10 months how could he how do u get over that ..he won’t go to meetings or get help he thinks he can do Ito. His own n it’s been 10 days n not even bothered him he said...we have separate money we just pay for shopping getha I pay all bills as he has his own house but lives at mine so I can’t keep an eye o his money but u have told him I wanna see bank statement every month n 1 bet m he’s gone