Gambking has ebded my relationship

Hi there

Don't feel like there's no way out, there's always a way out. Talk to an advisor anytime on here, there are many tools on here they can help you with debt relief etc, you can apply for a debt relief order on Stepchange on gamcare, but reach out for help asap, don't struggle. Show your partner you are ready to make a change in your life, join us on chatroom, as your not alone, there's millions of us with the same addiction and you'll be so glad once you start your day 1. Do this for you tho and if your partner really loves you he will support you but do it for yourself regardless as once you get help for you, everything else falls into place. Gambling is such a destructive addiction but there's so much help out there and you will be so glad you did it.

Jennyj 

@jennyj 

Thanks jenny. 

I havnt acctually gambled since downloading gamban I think its so hard because the consequences are here long after! 

I dont want to get help because I don't want it to effect my credit score because I will buy a house one day. I just want to pay them off as soon as possible and its driving me mad thinking of ways I can do it quickly. 

Im not doing it for him, I think im going to move out and just focus on me and my issues independently, I need a fresh start without pressure or feeling guilty. 

@43x79odb1l

I wish you well on your journey, that's so good you put gamban on. I hope you find a way of getting the debts out the way, unfortunately it may take some time but once it's done you will feel brilliant, I had to cut my credit cards up n took me a year to pay debts but wow wgat a great feeling once its paid then you got a fresh start like you say and new beginnings. Life will get better x

Hi

That's such a tough story and I feel for you. I can understand that you don't want to go into a debt relief situation but I would strongly suggest contacting Stepchange and talking it through with them. They can advise on all aspects of debt and not necessarily debt relief orders which sit on your file for six years. As Jenny suggested, Gamcare have a service to help with debt advice as well and they are brilliant. All you need to do is click the speaker to someone link and either talk or live text with them and they can refer you for a call

It sounds like you are very worried about the debt and it's worth trying to get some support and advice so you aren't doing this all by yourself. We all need a bit of help and there are people out there like Gamcare who can help and don't judge 

Stuart 

I’ve been in a very similar place where I stopped gambling but everything around me was still falling apart because of the debt.

That part is honestly the hardest, when you’ve done the right thing but you’re still dealing with the consequences. I remember feeling exactly the same, like if I could just clear the debt quickly everything would be ok again.

What I learned is there isn’t really a fast way out, and trying to rush it just made me more stressed. It got better when I accepted it would take time and just focused on staying gamble free and dealing with things step by step.

The fact you’re not gambling right now is massive, even if it doesn’t feel like it. That’s the one thing that stops it getting worse.