have only been gamble free for a few days, but have realised this site helps so much. Even if people do not reply to your topic, every time you feel that urge to go online come on here instead, then rather than spend half hour/hour gambling just have a read through people’s stories and replies. Have found with me that it makes the urge disappear, would rather be addicted on here than online casino.
Well done Pedro,
Get on the group chat tonight for a bit if you can. You’re right it really does help coming on here reading others stories and receiving advice off others who have all been in the same position.
The early days are tough but it gets easier and you’ll get more determined to beat this Illness as days, weeks and months pass by. Keep it up, I’m sure your head is starting to feel clearer already!
I totally agree Pedro.
I come on here, have a read and share some advice, hoping it will help someone.
Then I go onto the forum of the football team I support, have a read and share in a communal rant!!
Both help and the latter exposes me to sport (which I love) and allows me to be involved in a non-gambling way again.
Hi
Reading post helps me understand how vulnerable I use to be but more importantly how to take teh tests of time in healthy way.
My unhealthy reactions to life helped me understand how unhealthy I was.
In time I would understand that my anger was unhealthy.
Yet what was anger.Then I got to understand that anger was an unhealthy reaction to my pains not healed, that anger was an unhealthy reaction to my fears having not been faced in a much healthier way, and the hardest that anger was an unhealthy reaction to my unreasonable expectations of people life and situations that did not go my way.
My unhealthy feelings and reactions in impatience and intolerance to life and people were an indicator that I was being hard on myself more so.
My unhealthy feelings and reactions in jealousy had nothing to do about other people being successful, it had every thing to do about me feeling I could not be successful in my actions and words.
By me saying to myself oh who cares any way was the instant I was going to give up faith and hope in myself.
The recovery program has many mentions about religion and the wording god.
I am anon religious person and I know that recovery works, the only reason the recovery works is that I put huge amounts of time and energy in to my recovery .
When I first entered the recovery I use to think here I am now fix me, it certainly will not work with my thinking remaining that way.
I see and feel that the recovery is very simular to mountain climbers, by being tied to other people as a team I am helped in a way to help myself make many more healthier safer choices in my life.
It was sad that I had to give up connections with people were still involved with addictions and obsessions.
I could not help them find recovery until they wanted it for them self.
The recovery would help me write things down, understanding my needs, understanding my wants, understanding my new found challenging goals.
In finding a healthy sponsor help accelerate my healthy recovery.
My healthy recovery was very much slow baby steps, making healthier choices and healthier decisions.
My reason for being in recovery changes as I started to value myself.
As my recovery got stronger I was tested more and more.
My new found steel was being more and more tested yet I was not willing to go back to unhealthy habits.
Today do I want to live healthy life or do I want to self destroy myself once more.
For me my recovery is and was about healing my pains.
About healing the pains of my hurt inner child.
Love and peace to every one
Dave L
AKA Dave of Beckenham
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