Hi, i will keep this relatively short, i gambled for the past 3 years and not till recently ive hit the lowest point of my life. I had money in the bank before new years, and by 2nd januray i was up from gambling, i was happy as anything and on that day, things took a turn i ended up losing those winnings,and i wast devastaed lost that and lost 2.5k of my hard earned money, truly devastated, i was going on a holiday not long after that and the holiday got ruined cause of, fast forward to jan 28th, throughout them three weeks i cannot describe the pain i had to go through was terrible, but i had an itch of coming bwck so i did stupidly, but i won which was a mircale i was so happy but then got carried cause i was like this is working so ill keep going, but then yesterday hit and i got carried away so bad that am back to where i started ive had negative thoughts but without my girlfriend and my friend who had experienced similar loss, i dont know what i would, yes i would say i was addicted but i dont even care about the gamble its losing the money and i genuinely struggle to move forward with, i just need help how to change my mentality, cause i was just obsessed with money and i think thats what ruined me completely, if i won that money but change the mindset, i would not have been on here writing this forum, i can’t believe am gonna have to go thru the pain again, and i said to myself i dont wish this upon my worst enemy, and the worst possible outcome has happened, it happened again, please can someone help me, to try change this mindset because i just feel sick to be honest
Winning is always the worst outcome, I have been in similar position as you, I won in December n was elated but after a week of not gambling Id eventually go back n boy did they take it back and much more. Is this on Yr phone as if it is put a gamblock on and join us on chatroom. I'm only 17 days in GF but yes we support each other on chatroom, and don't beat yourself up on Yr relapse, you've done a year so you can do eternity. It's so easy to get caught up in the false hope of winning easy money coz we always always give it back.. eventually. Remember to get as much support on here and talk it out. The fact you've come on here is a fantastic start. These gambling sites, and arcades, bookies can't lose, that's why for our sanity sake we have to try n avoid at all costs. They rip everyone off n there's no limit. You got this. Don't give up, get the help n support you need n your mindset will change as it did before. Write a diary and stick with us on chatroom we you can. If u refer back to Yr diary it will show the pain gambling brought you amd why you don't wamt to go back down that path again. Remember the saying Easy come Easy go. Gambling is that yeh it's easy to win but just as easy to lose n we always lose more, it's the gamblers mindset. Good luck ♥️
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Are you trying to give up gambling or to come to terms with the recent loss of the money. As I'm sure you know, no one beats the bookmakers in the long run as the odds are in their favour. The fact you have gone back to play a few times, it sounds like you may do that again. What Jenny says it very true, try and come on the chatrooms at 8 each night and text chatÂ
Hi mate totally can relate my last relapse was caused by the initial huge win which contributed to taking out a loan which is something i never did i would lose most of my pay check but never dream of taking loan out has i got this huge win like many others i was planning on doing stuff however i couldnt simply stop the bets got bigger and i just couldnt accept what had happened this debt is what changed my life i came on here put all the usual blocks and been a regular on the chatroom ever since it was tough and i suffered the concequences after as i was always reminded by this debt fortunately it took less then a year to be completely debt free and my life has changed dramtically previously i did manage to go debt free however i didnt see the benefits in terms of financially as when i relapsed every penny was spent on gambling however coming on here and realising it not just about the money i did have peace of mind for the amount of time i was bet free i am on day 938 since my last bet and i couldnt ask for anymoreÂ
This happened to me recently as well. I woke up late after losing everything and I wish I woke up after winning but it's never like that. You'll always go back even if you win. I came to the terms I should not gamble at all. This is compulsive gambling, because I know people who played a bit, won and stopped but this is different. Please don't do this to yourself again. Just be happy with what you earn because the moment you go back you'll lose it all again. I had my 2nd relapse and both times I stopped after losing everything. I promised myself this will be the last time because I seriously considered leaving this world but thankfully I asked for help. I wish you good luck!Â
Remember the house always wins, you'll never leave on a win, never, you'll end up losing it and and even more eventually.
Hi, I’ve been in that exact place where it’s not even about gambling anymore, it’s about the money you lost and not being able to accept it.
What kept happening to me was the same cycle, win, feel amazing, think I’ve cracked it, then lose everything and more. The win was actually the thing that pulled me back in every time.
The hardest part was accepting the money is gone and not trying to win it back. Once I stopped chasing it, my head slowly got clearer.
That sick feeling you’ve got right now, I know it well. It does pass, but only if you don’t go back again.
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