jfirst of all let me start by saying I gambled for almost one year as my honeymoon period... Since then I have spent the next five years trying to come to handle able terms... What I first thought was to STOP it completely... Then I thought I could control it.... Which I do in a roller coaster fashion... However now today I am discovering to my distaste that I do get fun when I gamble with periods of non gambling in between... But the time between gambles brings me a lot more stress and anxiety and worry... Than the fun time spent in front of a gambling machine... Be it online or in a betting shop... Now here is the magical question.... How do I remedy the excessive time that I find myself troubled by the gambling bug.... P.s. I do not spend loads of money... And I find that too much gambling is just as bad for me mentally as too little gambling... w*f....
I think I'm in a similar position, I don't spend a fortune like the stories iv read in these forums but its all the money I have! I feel like its a social thing more than anything for me anyway there's nothing g better in a Saturday morning into the bookies for a footy bet and then head away for breakfast before football, but its the point after where I find myself boad and end up on my own heading to the casino! Im interested to see any other replies on this as j feel it would also benefit myself!
I find myself struggling more with not spending all of my money... And trying but not always succeeding in keeping to a preset limit... I have a tendency to keep resetting my limits to spend less and lesser amounts over longer periods of time.... I think maybe not being able to settle for a set amount per... Week or 2weeks or 4 weeks could be part of the whole agitated state of mind thingy... The mere thought of doing this g thing brings on negatively charged emotions and can happen at anytime and usually is everyday.... I know you have to wait for it to pass... But... It stirs the butterflies in my stomach.... w*f...
I have decided to try a new different Approach... That is... Not to get caught up in the definition of what I plan to do, in other words I definitely have to follow the plan or else... Which was driving me nuts...!!! Instead I should try and wait for payday and then make a decision on payday with whatever expendable cash I'm left with... Whether to save, g , or treat myself or even all three and also if there is anything else I havent thought of... Make my decisions then , on payday... LOL... I hope you don't think I'm being stupid... But it seems to be relevant to me losing the uneeded stresses day to day... It's all good...!!!
Rnd() wrote:
I find myself struggling more with not spending all of my money...
I recognise this about myself. Often for me gambling is a way of getting rid of money and once its gone I feel less stressed. I have been in counselling and my counsellor thoughtthat it sounds like a similar process to some people who self-harm themselves physically, because they often feel calm after they have inflicted the hurt to themselves.
Just to clarify... The only time I feel like I am giving up my funds or monies is when I have spent too much time constantly gaming ... Doing the same functions repeatedly with No great exciting boost or return for the time I am spending in front of the machine is only serving to bore me more and more and it is the functionality of how the game works that is causing me to be more and more stressed and I really just want it to be over or finished quicker...
This all sounds pretty complicated. It just sounds like torture as well. I can't imagine you can continue your life in this way indefinitely.
De... It is pretty complicated... So is my life... I won big at online site... Big to me, anyway, I thought it was easy all I had to do was cancel my card and start on a new site with a new card and being a new member they were going to pay me out big for just wagering a little on slots... I soon discovered they must share information about me with each other as they managed to disturb what I thought was a better chance of winning.... I understand it to be a total battle of wits... However I do not pay for a team of very clever people or staff to help me... They do everything from research able psychology and statistics by means of daily employment , well paid Staff and Professional people with Degrees etc... So I will give myself 24/48 hrs to calm down and make sure I come to the correct decisions that I can live with in my life... I obviously aim to leave the G behind me buried in a deep hole on Pluto... P.s. I am not in debt and have spent an affordable amount ... But this has been a learning experience that I mean to use in my favour... No More online sites... The online sites are too well prepared for money seekers.. The want of Money... And all that... I maintain that if I still have an inch of control left in me I will know better after 24/48 hrs... And whether I need to take further steps to aid in controlling this wild idea I had for easy money... I hope I have made sense of myself... Jim x...
P.s. I most definitely have self excluded from the four sites I tried to hoodwink...!!!
RND please dont think i am trying to tell you what to do. But I've just lost an insane amount of money having not gambled for 7 months so have been thinking about my gambling a lot. I first excluded myself from a site several years ago, and at that time didn't think I had a problem at all. Looking back, i wish I had known then because whilst I enjoyed gambling for another year or 2, overall it has brought me complete misery. We only self exclude when we have lost control, so please consider giving up for good
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