Abstain and maintain.Stepping forward never back.

Dunc,

Your diary is an incredible read. I just wanted to say you are doing incredibly well with your recovery and you put so much into this site, which is much appreciated by all.

Tomso.

Morning,

People often tell me I am away with the fairies, after your last post on my thread think I you have joined the club.lol

Having said that , I'm in , life time membership, one obvious admission on your thread though , extra large doors all that choc see myself having a problem getting in or out. Lol

Right I am off to do some gardening, wonder who planted that seed ( excuse the pun) , not at the tree stage yet so a few pansys to get me started.

Have a good day Duncs

Dusty

DAY65

Dusty.

You are probally right I am as mad as a march hare! I tend to get an idea and spend hours with it whizzing around my addled brain. and yes today I though I could be woody in the "cheers" bar(never quite got to manager level so no chance of being sam!!lol) and in light of the last few days I do beleive we have our very own "bar" here and everyone is welcome!! always that friendly face-virtual-all be it.Just visited another uni with my eldest so a lovely day in sussex!! sun shining me in cords and shirt, my trusty flat cap looking like a respectable dad lol(sorry joe!!!) So to one and all I christen our bar "BRIGHT AND BREEZY" and mine is the first for a pint of our favoured drink "THE NO BET TODAY SHAKE" please feel free to join me one all!!first rounds on me!!!

duncs striding forward!! one more day NO BET.

Well done Dunc keep the great work going. You sound like your in a great place and enjoying the Sussex sunshine.

Keep it up, your an inspiration.

Hya Duncan

Cheers for the supportive comments on my diary. Are you still in contact with your old mate that u found? I think for me gambling made my life feel so lonely and confiding in my family helped but it's also important to have people around you that dont know you as 'a gambler'. We need that chance to be just us, the person that we are without the gambling whether in successful recovery or not. Sometimes I don't want to be congratulated for stopping, I just want to have some people around that think of me as normal, no pity, no congratulation for stopping, no worry of relapse.

Becky

Easter chocolate quiz idea swimming round.....will run it past Shiney (Dusty) and you on my return ...lol

Prize ..virtual choccy egg of your choice,

Rach n Doo x

becky. At this moment in time i am enjoying the comforts of a cotton wool wrapping to a degree. I am daily re-training that addled brain of mine but with my wife controlling the finances that triangle of time-money-location i learnt at ga. Means i can go about re training myself that money does have a value rather than it just be converted into tokens to bet. When i do have cash like today for the trip along the coast i get recipts for what i buy and all this helps me, i have swapped a few text with my old pal but he is starting a family now and and our 3 kids are 18,16 and 13 so we dont have much time between us so it may be the odd catch up in the future. I do know what you mean, but i think i have spent nearly 20 years pretending to be something i am not and right now i am starting to like being me. Onwards and upwards. And i have landed back in hampshire so i can make my GA meeting tonight 10th one in a row and have used the medicine i get dished up well.

Duncs stepping forward.

Hi Dunc

Hope you had an enjoyable meeting tonight. My friend who i was gonna bring has attended a meeting in Bournemouth and I think he's gonna try and get to Poole on Tuesday night, he tells me he hasn't bet for 3 weeks now so hopefully he can straighten his life out at 22 instead of wasting all them years as the likes of me and you have done in them bookies!!

I'll never forget the time, place and money thing i was told in the GA and i hold that dearly. My partner has all of our money, i am self excluded from all of my old haunts and i have bet filter on my laptop. I have plenty of time on my hands but i choose not to gamble in that time. The kids have my time now and not the bookies or the IPL (starting next week coincidently). I will have to watch myself over the coming weeks with that one as i have gambled pretty much daily on that fixed rubbish for the past few years.

Take care buddy,

Keith

Hi Dunc,

Hope your doing well? From reading your diary you certainly sound like you are.

Thaks for your posts on my diary it really means a lot.

This time i will never be looking back. Keep up the great work.

Steve

day66.

keith fella you said it yourself that load of fixed rubbish,so bear that in mind and keep up that good work. GA was good,glad to report no new members this week and 2 out of the 3 from last returned bet free.

The sun is shining,the weather is sweet makes me want to move my dancing feet!!

(thankyou MR Robert Nesta Marley for todays inspiration!!!)

NO BET today medicine taken that lid is well and trully of the bottle to stay!!

duncs stepping forward never back(not even in a moonwalk!!!!lol)

Duncs

You really should give up your day job and take up life coaching.

I LOVE READING YOU POSTS, I always log off lifted and smiling. Maybe we have the same sence of humor who knows.

I have this picture in my mind , of you in wellys , wearing a flat cap, moonwalking down the sweetie isle of Asda.

If positively and humor is the secret to beating this , you have got the skills needed in abundance.

Have a great day.

You very own smiling fairy

Dunc,

I love the time-money-location triangle. Never seen this before. I love this site. Forty something days and still learning new things.

Keep up the good work.

Tomso.

Duncan

Keep up the good work pal.

Have a great gamble free weekend with the family.

Kind regards,

gazza

Keep going with the forward steps my friend, I'm walking right beside you.

day67.

No bet today,nice to spend another saturday not glued to the phone and the tv checking the various ways i would have lost my money,had another very good heart to heart with my wife last night i think no hope we are singing off the same hymn sheet,she has been so forgiving and is really trying to understand and at the same time get me to see how she feels as i beleive i want to share her emotions too,and find the best way for us to put up the best fight we can to help me continue this gamble free life, I know there is still a long road to travel to get to that light i am searching for but know more today that I can achieve so much by living my life gamble free.

duncs stepping forward one more day.