Abstain and maintain.Stepping forward never back.

Very true Duncs...we find out in the downtimes who is true friend and who is fair-weather.....

Its a hard lesson but once learned never forgotten....from this end I also have learned who is my friend because the ones who stay stay even if i have nothing to give out.

I am a very generous person by nature..and I never "give to get"..its always one way...

My Mum used to say if you give...whether it be time,energy,money etc with an open heart and one way without expectation of getting back....then you DO get back threefold. x

It may come back from who you may not think and we have to recognise it when it does come back.

To me ..money is a reflection of energy...stingy people often are also emotionally tight with their time and energy in my experience...

Take care Duncs.....keep on keeping on...always forward and never back .......xxxx

Rach an Doo xxx

Hi,

Great post, what a difference a day makes. To coin a phrase .

Being surrounded by people who truly care about you and your well being, is priceless. But I am sure this works both ways in your case.

Everyday you seem to grow in confidence and stature.

You posted once on my thread about at your rock bottom. Your words stayed with me for the longest time, and even today I often think about them when I read your posts. You are one of the greatest examples on this site of going into recovery and turning your life around full circle. You should be so very very proud of what you have achieved in 14 weeks. Admittedly you have had tremendous support from your family and friends. The openness between you and your boss makes my jaw drop. But ultimately recovery relies on the person involved not having a bet, fighting the urges , making changes in there life/ thinking to keep this addiction at bay. You are showing us all that this can be done and at the same times the rewards that await us. For that I thank you .

Keep on keeping on .( he he )

Dusty xx

Hi ,

What a post there!

Totally know where that came from , but soo good to see the happiness you are now finding with the ones that matter.

Long may it continue on the up for you

Thanks as always for posting on mine

Lucy

DAY100. No bet. To say I have been in arrest for 100 days gives me a huge sense of pride. I have gone from being a fella sitting one day into recovery in the county court at a hearing to lose my house and most probally my family with it to.today i am in a place were I am in a better job than I have been for 10 years, money in the bank at the end of the month not just the days it went in and most of all I am being honest with myself. Recovery is not a bunch of roses, the demon of gambling has knocked the door to tempt me many times, but I have found an inner strength that at times has served me well and through GA and this forum a top up my resolve on a regular basis. I have a stick which at first i beat myself with now i beat addiction with it. I was given a chance in that court room 99 days ago and i have it in both hands, we still have our family home and slowly it has been and continues to be that, a lovely family home. My best friend, my soul mate the person who in my 38 years has spent 20 by my side through some good times and through my addiction some trully shocking times is stood firmly at my side and i cant explain in words what that means, i trully love her so dear and stepping forward the lying stopped and the tears of sadness have been replaced with tears of joy and laughter once again fills our house. I know each day i could take all this away i have a life long addiction but today through this strength i behold i know when i say NO BET TODAY i do trully mean it. I can admit to you all that gambling had me licked, beaten but life has not seen enough of me yet so forwards i will step never back. Thankyou to all my gamcare "family" whom have all been a part and will continue to play a part in my ongoing recovery. Duncs compulsive gambler 100 days NO BET.

Really well done on getting 2 a 100 days u are so supportive to everyone on this forum and in ur last post it shines thru how far u have come in a 100 days.

U deserve everything ur getting duncan and long may it continue a day at a time.

A great last post! It fills me with such pride to read that one of our family have turned everything round and moved forward. The beautiful thing is it doesn't take too long to get that positivity in our lives as you show. Long may it last one day at a time. You have a great handle on this recovery so keep hold of it. Take care

Stand tall oh mighty oak, for all the world to see,

your strength and undying beauty forever amazes me.

Though storm clouds hover above you,

your branches span the sky,

in search of the radiant sunlight you

count on to survive.

When the winds are high and restless and

you lose a limb or two,

it only makes you stronger, we

could learn so much from you.

Though generations have come and gone

and brought about such change,

quietly you've watched them all yet still

remained the same,

I only pray God give to me the strength he's

given you,

to face each day with hope, whether

skies are black or blue,

Life on earth is truly a gift

every moment we must treasure,

it's the simple things we take for granted

that become our ultimate pleasures.

Dusty xxxxxxx

Good Morning Sir,

And can i just say what a great post to read first thing!

A huge Well Done on your 100days 🙂

Duncan you are so supportive of others including myself that you deserve all the good you are starting to see.

The hope it brings to me and hopefully others really shines whenever you post , long may you continue on your brilliant journey!

I have a great big grin on my face 🙂

Thank you

Lucy

Dunc,

Great post mate.

Well done on 100 days-i'm on 60.

Have a great day gamble free, i know i will!

gazza

Well done on the milestone Dunc - think of how your life has swung around in those last 100 days - people say time is a great healer but nothing truer in this case

Keep it up

Blues

Great post Duncs!

Congratulations on 100 not out!! Keep going and keep posting - you're an inspiration!!

🙂

Hiya Duncs and congratulations to you on your 100...The days in the wilderness truly behind you and now you are embracing life with every fibre of your being.....fantastic ...and your diary an amazing testament to your daily recovery ....

What you have is consistency of purpose ...which is something I would love to emulate one day...you rule are an inspiration and I wish my ex would have stayed on this site and been engaged with posts from you and other successes on here who are walking the walk every day....

I am also thrilled that the love of your life is by your side...and you have true love too....

Im lucky as mine is not only by my side but also in my bed and currently chewing my slippers xxx lol

Hugs choccy and wuffs ....Rach and Doo xxx

Hi Duncs,

I just wanted to say congratulations on reaching 100 days gambling free. That is a fantastic achievement. Great also to hear that your family life is going so well.

Best wishes

Dave

thanks all for your kind words they really do help me to keep raising that wall. Off tonight so i am on way for a dose of my ga medicine. Duncs stepping forward never back.

DMac,

Great achievement. Really happy for you. Well done.

Tomso.