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Hey coo,

Don't ever take take gambling as a. Excuse for anything, it's not, it's evil and will self desrruct you, even though it continual.ly tells you it's an outlet,you have my number, ring me when you are / and if you want to xxxxx

Hey S , I'd just seen a couple of your last posts and wanted to comment ,so do with it what you wish and no offence taken .

Despite what you may think of me or how you see my post's ,I for one take no joy from you lapsing or bingeing and that's true of most genuine folk on here , were all on this place together to hold hands when we need to and offer support when we can, so all I'm gonna say is start being kind to yourself will you , accept life for what it is , beautifull in parts and total shi.te in others you just need to focus on the beatifull bits and discard the rest , the past is the past, stop allowing it to spoil your future because thats the bit that counts , we should all treat every day as though it's our last , because one day it will be !

If you have things in your life now that you don't like or that you find upsetting , then change them One at a time , just make a deal with yourself that however long it takes you will change one thing thats making you feel the way you do !

If you can sense those urges are going to come and visit you then you have time to change what happens and prevent the same thing from happening again , maybe just maybe if your more kind to yourself and cut yourself a little slack things will improve ? , too much pressure on yourself is never good !!.

Just for today take care of you huh ! x

Hi Sandra

I can see a big change in how you're expressing yourself - your thoughts and emotions.

From your writing, at least, you seem more aware. More focused on the issues. I think that's massively important. It's hard to change anything when we're all at sea.

Best wishes

Louis

Hi, Sandra,

Thanks for your post - can only advise you to follow your own advice. If you don't, who will?

Look after yourself,

CW

Just wanted to stop by to acknowledge what you're going through rather than offer up any answers, advice or solutions.I like Joan's line... "I still believe we're gonna make it." I believe that for you too. Keep learning, keep looking, keep living. Keep on, Keeping on.

LB x

Hi S, thanks as always for your continued support, you have been there for me since day one, and have been a massive support to my rollercoaster journey.

Just want to say thank you coo coo for caring, and I know you will get there when stuff changes:)))

Take care and keep blxxdy safe little friend.

Sxxxxxxxxx

Evening, Sandra,

It's a shame to see the happenings on the Forum but, Sandra, focus on you. Your recovery is important, you are important, please concentrate on you, do what you need to do to stay safe and don't get distracted by the current bad feeling. Or let other people's needs come ahead of yours.

You were asking about me, thanks, we're are actually quite a lot better at the moment, long may it last. Some of the nuggets from GA and possibly from the Therapist must be penetrating, my husband is making a huge effort to change things, to change himself. I can almost remember why I thought it was a good idea to get married but it's early days, recovery is a long term project and I know for me that we couldn't go back, I couldn't tolerate a relapse. My daughter seems to have written off part of one exam but is working hard for all the others, her mock grades improved and there was nothing wrong with her ability to express herself when she was reminded that good as her progress is, it's the real thing that counts. Poor girl.

Take care of yourself and set the example, follow your own excellent advice.

CW

I'm also assuming that what was written at the bottom of my page was you paying me a huge compliment and wishing me a peacfull night and a restfull sleep , so thank you for those kind words and I reciprocate and wish you well in your journey !

Best wishes

Hi Sandra,

I hope u r ok, just wanted to say please focus on ur recovery journey don't let others bring u down!

U have helped many people here, me included 🙂 xx

Really Sandra , what is wrong with you leaving a post like that on someone's diary at this time of the night ? Enough's enough eh !

Sandra, STOP. Now. For you. For YOU.

You can't control bad behaviour elsewhere on the forum and whatever you post won't change that. You control you and you worry about what you do and your own standards. Which have dropped in this incident.

There's a particular new post yesterday from someone who sounded fairly desperate that didn't get the attention it otherwise would have, from you (you're good at them) or from Forum Admin because of the present situation. Helping people in trouble from gambling - including you - is the purpose of this forum.

There has been an unfortunate amount of anger and aggression on the forum lately and the next is to make you think, not give up: the angry and agressive posters are not the ones in ongoing long term recovery.

I was one of the first to be uninvited to post on that particular diary, a few weeks ago, I haven't and I won't now. But they say in GA and GamAnon that no one is all good or all bad and so it seems. Like you, when she's not angry, her posts to newcomers and people struggling have been thoughtful, empathetic and well targeted and she has recently gone to some trouble to ask another member to help one of the f&f in difficulty.

Focus on you, Sandra, you need the help of the Forum and you have a lot to offer.

Take care of YOU.

CW

Hi diary,

Thank you all. So, another day in the land of living.. for some reason nothing knocks me out lol.
Overstepped the mark yesterday and fully take the responsibility. I can clearly see compulsive traits in me...no stopping - laughing/crying/shouting & so on..i can go like bulldozer sometimes. Not gonna apologise for my behaviour, person in question doesn't read my diary anyway. Just apologising to the ones who happened to read them. I guess i have no limits.

Anyway. No gambling. Come off tablets also so maybe that's why i feel a little jumpy also? God knows. Went for a run today..nice 8 miles and plenty of fresh air in these lungs.
What i so so regret and didn't see coming is snapping at my Dad today :-(...first time in 30 years i shouted at him...this is the only thing i will not forgive myself..i actually just mumbled to his questions...work?..ummmm...ok...volunteerring?...ummmm..ok. Interview?...was cancelled.
If he knew that all of these is going so so bad at the minute, if he knew that i am holding on tight thread for survival, if he knew how much i need them here and now... yet, i shouted at him instead.

I guess that's me today. Many people suggested to wave white flags,...Sesuo kindly asked to delete offensive words, Duncs not even replying to my apology for in my opinion making him to want leave the site.

Basically all is poo...and the biggest part landed on my own head...that will teach me.

Day at a time

Coo coo (true words lol) you were totally out of order last night with your posts, you were hanging dirty washing out on an innocent person, a cyber person Hun, and you know that, you have now taken it out on your Dad, because you know you were wrong, wasn't ready to speak to you yet, but once I start lol, it's k to hang our dirty washing out on ourselves in cyberspace, on our diaries, but we do not predict and speculate other folks dirty washing and then hang it out.you are like my older son in a lot of ways, you can't keep throwing those dollies out of the pram at other people. Ok throw them at yourself on your diary, but not at others.

Your support to me has helped me get this far on my journey, but your comments last night has knocked a few folks for six, nether I d the newbies, you and I would have run a mile if we first came on here and read that c**P that you wrote on that persons diary, think my little friend, time to think now before lashing out, that addiction is winning at this time, time for you to win back again, because I know you are soo much it, and I know that wasn't you last night, it was the addiction, (s)

Saying this to you as a friend, you are soo much like my son, I know that wasn't you.

Get rid of the blxxdy pram and all its toys lol, you have past the toy stage now.

Worried about you

Sxxxxxxxx

Knock, knock...is it safe to come in?? So, you couldn't just sing Frozen huh? 🙂

Listen, I don't really know what to say but I can't just say nothing. I hope you're ok. I don't know what buttons of yours were being pressed but I suspect the catalyst wasn't just recent events. That doesn't make it ok. But I think you know that. In the cold light of day after the red mist has receeded, I'm sure you know it. I can't tell you what to do (I've tried!!) but maybe just try and see what the triggers were...so that you don't make the same mistakes again. There will always be people who trigger us...we have to learn how to deal with them.

As for your Dad. Well, you didn't answer you own questions...if he knew how you were holding on by a thread. If he knew how much you needed him....well...what? What would happen if he did know? I'm not expecting you to answer that here. I'm not trying to push you. I'm sure he'll be ok about you shouting, but I can see that it's upset you. I really hope you're doing ok. LB x

Hi... ive got no idea whats going on, but just wanted to touch base with you

I guess your personal inner turmoil goes outwards and other people get it, so to speak. Mine tends to go inwards and at its worst I literally want to crawl into a very small dark space close the door and cry. I have done this on occasions.

I find that addictive gambling ampilfies my emotional state massively. Its scary.

Hope your ok. get some wet wipes for the poo on your head 😉