Going to keep this thread now!

Hi Freda.. sorry to hear that youve had a bit of a pants of a day. Other people eh.. what they like! Anyways I hope the emotion of the moment has passed and you feel back on a level.

I hear what you say about depression and meds. What you say makes sense. I nearly finished the training to be a mental health nurse years ago (believe if or not!) but realised that i was actually more depressed than some of the patients and had to drop out.. and the fact that I was gambling like a but case didn't help of course! I really should have been on some sort of meds if not for depression then for anxiety.

Like you say with mild or functional depression a balanced diet and exercise and managing stress etc can help it to lift by itself.. thats my experince anyway. Anything more severe then meds yes.

Hope you manage to have a nice chilled out evening. I'm off for a swim. My first piece of exercise for a month. take care.. S.A 🙂

Sorry the repair men were rude Freda,i have experienced that sort of thing many times and i don't take well to it:),i have hoofed them out before now!!!,still we are all different and i can understand that it's knocked you off kilter for the day,......hope your feeling a bit better now:).

Seano.

Aw aren't you's lovely!

I'm fine now, they were just super-unreasonable. Some people blow you away, like they will kick you then complain you have hurt their foot!

I can't force them to give my money back, because it's a second hand reconditioned washer, but they have lost out in the karma stakes big time poor souls.

I won't be buying from them when this one dies, and will make sure everyone I know, knows what mean bugg ers they are!

I just hope it comes back clean - it was proper minging.

Hi Freda,

Thank you for the post. You must have read my diary wrong, but I did not desposit into any bingo site shortly after I rejoined here.

Delgirl

Sorry delgirl, got it back to front, you deposited before not after. My mistake!

Hi Freda.. thanks for droppin in. Hope you have good karma today.. mines a bit off.. o well never mind.

Have a great day.. S.A 🙂

Hey my girl

Just popped in to say:

I'm sending lots of hugs and love, just because...

God Bless

Sabine

aw thanks guys,

had a really tough day. felt like a pressure cooker inside my body! the person I work with is having a horrible time, and was ranting about it all day. Really bad stuff she is going through, like no food or money to feed her kids. I feel sorry for her, but I just felt like I couldn't cope with it. I just got all stressed out and anxious.

I didn't used to be able to give anyone support even over minor things when I first had my breakdown, I would just feel panicky and overwhelmed by anyone's troubles. Now I can handle lending an ear to most problems, but her situation is just horrific and its too much.

I'm just going to have to be honest with her tomorrow if she starts it again, and just say I feel for you, but I can't cope.

Hi Freda,

Just wanted to thank you for all your support, both on my diary and in chat.

Hope you have a better day tomorrow. You are a truely wonderful person.

Thanks for everything.

Hi Freda,

Sorry to hear that you had a bad day yesterday. You have a lot of support on here. We are all wishing you well and hoping that today will be better.

All the very best.

Hiya Freda,

It's a tricky one when your in close proximity to a work colleague. Only an idea, but can you use an MP3 or ipod at work, some nice soothing music, rather than hearing all those problems. Plus get out at lunchtime and breaks for some quiet time. Just ways of making yourself less available. We all like to give a helping hand, a listening ear, but it is not always possible. I'm not able to work very much at mo, because most of my customers like to tell me all their stuff and I can't hack it at the mo. Hope today was better for you.

Del x

Thanks guys,

There is literally no escape because im a lollipop lady and there is no one else working with us. Its just me and her for an hour or more. She was crying for the first 20 minutes this morning while we were seeing children over the road. If it happens again im going to have to tell our manager. She is in no fit state, but refuses to go home even when she is crying.

I can't cope with it. She started telling me she has no food for her kids again today, and I had to tell her i am sorry, but I can't cope. If things are that bad she needs to see our manager or talk to a social worker. I can't cope with hearing that.

She tried it again saying a family member offered her 40 pounds but no more and it will only last her a few days and then she doesn't know how she is going to feed her kids. At this point I am hyperventilating, I just can't cope with it.

I ask her 'were you offered counselling through work?' 'yes' she says. 'Did you take it?' answer 'no'.

So i repeat that Im not well myself and I can't cope. Please take up the offer of counselling if you need to talk to someone. Shes not happy at all, but what do I do? I can't end up on the sick myself because of her. Im recovering from a nervous breakdown.

My nerves have been in bits all week, and I had to take Valium to cope with my final shift at work yesterday. I can't cope with 'how am i going to feed my kids?' I really wouldn't have said anything if I wasn't desperate, but if its making me ill.

People have to help themselves, and if she is refusing counselling but choosing to vent her distress at me, when I have already said please don't i can't cope my sympathy has ran out.

What do you lot think?

f*****g fed up. Im selfish i know thats what everyone is thinking. netline huh

f*** you all i dobntr have to apologise for not wanting to get ill

hey Freda.. your a good and kind person. I'd feel just the same in your shoes.

The thing is your not a selfish person. You have great empathy and listening skills thats probably why she wants to talk to you. Go to your manager and explain. let your manager make decisions and take action. You shouldnt have to be put in this position. Your ok.. get hubby to give you a big hug.. S.A 🙂