hi wp, thank you so much for your support -my chin's been on the floor for a few days, and you gave me a lift.
congrats on a monumental achievement - 25 weeks - almost 1/2 a year !
sorry to hear of your problems with your ex, i know (as many of us do) how hard it is when our gambling past has been cast up to us, and we are doing our best to stay bet free - so keep thinking of the friends you have on the forum, we are with you all the way.
P.s - i am also from north of the border, and i think i've got world cup overload already - and its not even started !
all the best
tommi
Hi wp,hope today is a better one for you mate,you will get things on an even keel with your ex eventually :),it's a pity your such a long way from where me and Stumper are,i would like nothing more than to meet you in the flesh....,who knows wp perhaps one day we can.If you would like my mobile number i am willing to pass it on via the gamcare staff mate.
Seano.
Hi wp as you say "...anyway today i did not bet tomorrow i wont bet....onwards and upwards we an do this ;-)" keep that line in your end. Xs and related situations are volotile - it can be a minefield. Try stay calm and focussed. Your debt is similar to mine im between (I think) the 60 to 70k mark not including the house. Choices need to be made but not which include trying to get the big hit.
And hey dont you know England win the world cup this year :))))) All the best to you Blocked.
Hi wp,
Sorry for not posting for a while but have been too busy with work. I had a big smile on my face when I read about your kid running into your arms, that's one of lifes treasures isn't it. Sorry your ex is being like that with you mate, but just remember that you yourself have changed. Like me, you are a different person to the one you were whilst gambling. Your a top fella, remember that.
Stay Strong
Steve
many thanks seano,stumper,phil,tommi,blocked and yorkie....in library today (day off) d**n phone been cut off ,dispute over unpaid bill....last month every message sent was an mms and got charged for it but ive since paid my monthly tarriff but theyve left the charges on....been in town and got it sorted (hopefully) but now cant get internet settings on phone...more unnecessary stress gonnae have to go back into town grrr !!! no contact today so far with ex...not sure of reasoning behind latest outburst but i get impression a family fall oot has caused this...i will investigate further but prob get told not to be so nosey..can read her like a book lol...must admit on reading kims post on another diary it truely shocked me..very sad indeed.. today i wont bet tomorrow i wont bet,,we can do this folks 😉
Hi wp.
Sorry to hear about your phone and hopefully you'll get it up and going again soon.Think your doing great considering you have the added stress with your ex.
Keep moving forward and stay strong my friend....
Viggo.
Hi Post,
I really admire the way you go to extreme lengths to be able to post on here mate. I know we all value your input. Stay as upbeat as you can mate, well until England win the WC and then you are allowed to feel as low as you want lol. Ok, I can hear your reply already. "you'll be feeling upbeat for a long time yet!!"
Stay Strong
Steve
Thank you viggo and yorkie....after problems of last few days hopefully phone is back up and running.....landlord rang me today and says i can have better flat downstairs but would need extra £400 bond...spoke with my parents who've agreed to help me out yet again so hopefully within next couple weeks i can have a better style of living as this flat where i am is in desperate need of upgrading...guilty feelings again as im owe my parents an absolute fortune as it is but they seem happy for me....was kinda hoping for moving in with ex but she still wont speak to me and that defo gets me down.,daft thing is im gonnae commit to this new flat for 6 months and as ive said before it could be money spent on them kids if used elsewhere..so i suppose its onwards and DOWNWARDS for me lol....having been of line for couple days i do feel for a certain diary yet the diary in question just simply wont listen to any of us so from now on im gonnae keep my thoughts t myself on that subject as despite everyones well wishes it seems to be falling on deaf ears ...today i did not bet tomorrow i wont bet we can do this folks 😉
Thanks for the post on my diary mate--much appreciated as always.
Understand your thoughts about the diary concerned mate but if everything in life was easy we would all be successful and non gamblers. I know I could not see the wood for the trees for years and whilst I too get disappointed by the person's apparent attitude to the problem he has, at least he is here and something inside him keeps him here. When gambling I think we all have a sort of split personality problem and perhaps there is part of this person trying to break away from the other at the moment--we just cannot find the way to get through to the rest of him yet.
Hi wp,
Thank you for removing me from page 3!!
I am still going strong no urges or desire to go back in time, forwards is the only way for me now!!
Its good to hear you are going to move into somewhere a bit nicer. When your surroundings bring you down everyday can be a bit of a struggle, after all its the first thing you see in the morning so you have to overcome that before you can even begin to think of lifes other dilemmas!!
Your parents really do want you to be happy and thats why they help you out! its took me along long time to accept that my parents just want me to be happy and for me to accept their help. Now that i can and do! i feel like I am starting to live the life they always wanted me to have and i always ran away from. God knows why i thought i shouldnt have a nice life and should suffer, it might be because i felt guilty in comparison to others who were not so fortunate? anyway I am fortunate to have parents who can and do help, you are fortunate too and to show our gratitude we are going to show them we are strong and not gamble!!
As hard as it sounds concerning your ex,I think maybe its time for you to concentrate on making a life for yourself? of course you will always have contact because of the children. Your determination on that point can never be underestimated! but hanging on to something thats just not going anywhere is a waste of prescious time! Gambling has already cost you time that cannot be replaced dont go wasting more away on something that may or may not happen.
Make a life for yourself, it will be the best revenge!!!
lots of love no1 fan, page 3 linda x x
Hi wp
I hope everything goes well with the new place m8.Although i do agree it would be better spent omn your kids.
I know you seem like you are commiting yourself for another 6 months but you never know the situation may change with your ex and even if you did happen to move in with her say in the next 3 months.the flat would still be there.
I have said before i have a good feeling this relationship will get back on track and i think thats what you want so i do hope it works for you.All the best Jeff.
Hi wp,the new flat will be a step in the right direction for you.....,always better to feel we are in comfortable surroundings,and it will give you a wee boost!!!.....don't worry about your Mum and Dad helping you out a bit,i'm sure they are very happy to do so.It's a shame your ex is currently not talking to you,don't know what say on that score....,relationships are complex at the best of times!!!.You just concentrate on your own problems and keeping away from gambling,no horse or dog can run as fast as we can lose our money.
Seano.
Hi wp, thanks for post,
Just to clarify, I respect all diaries and welcome all advice. My comments last week related to the main 3 people who for me have remained consistent in their approach and support levels to others on here, whilst others seem to change how they think as often as the British Weather changes, which can frustrate me.
I agree that at present I am not at all involved in responsible gambling and have lost large amounts of money in recent weeks.
However this site amongst other things helped me to be a responsible gambler for 4 months earlier in the year and I will get back to that, hopefully sooner rather than later.
hi wp tnx for the post...
I would like to refer to captains post...I have seen responsible gambling b4...proffesional gamblers are capable of this because they win about 89% of the time so they can afford it...it is a buisness for some....However, most people (cg's) cannot control gambling..Therefore, because of the size of the industry too much temptation is out there to side track people in general.
I wish you well.
£fast life.
Hi wp,
Cheers for the post mate. I liked your *** about the letters after your name!
I'm much cheerier this week mate so i'll try and stay this way. I've realised that gambling makes me really unhappy so it is a no brainer really.
Enjoy your weekend mate.
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