recovering

Hi rosco I know exactly how you feel and have been there but if you truly want to stop then you need to commit to it starting by self excluding from the bookies and any online site you may use. Maybe install blocking software,give your partner control of your finances,show her you mean business. As men we suffer from male pride and bravado and convince ourselves we can stop whenever we want or we can limit the amount we'll play but the truth is we can't. We can't win because we can't stop! This will continue to take and take unless you make a stand. I used to think I didn't need counselling as that was only for the weak people or alcoholics drug addicts etc but the simple fact is I need it and it's an incredibly valuable tool to quit gambling but to maintain and stay gamble free. In the mean time keep posting on here as there are some fantastic people with great advice and words of encouragement. You can do this one day at a time. I wish you well in your recovery

Thank you means a lot I spent 20 today deep down I really want to stop I know I feel the same about going to counselling feel embarrassed I really need to be strong and take every bit of help I really want to have a better life I'm sick of feeling down and sad all the time it's affecting every aspect of my life and I don't want to lose my girlfriend she's been my rock through it all and so understanding don't know how I deserve her a really don't she nags me yes but I know deep down she wants what's best for me so I really should not just do it for me but do it for her!

Hi rosco and welcome to the forum , £70 Monday , £20 thursday , day's and amounts are one thing but " Nothing changes if nothing changes " buddy and those feelings your having will not stop until you do , its a vicious cycle that only you can break by stopping gambling .

Sorry to sound harsh and dissagree but you should look after you first and focus on stopping for yourself , your partner will benefit only when you stop gambling and to do that you have to draw a line under it let go of any losses because it's you not letting go of that dream weve all had that'll pull you back everytime my friend .

You can do this rosco and if you value your girlfriend as much as you say you do , then its only fair that you stop , put all the blocks in place you can , self exclude if bookies are your thing or do the same with any online accounts and download blocking software , k9s free or netnanny and gamblock are available at a cost , you can still get around things but it will give you time to think before doing any more damage .

If you need any advice just ask any of the posse on here and someone will answer your post , alternatively speak to gamcare .

Best wishes my friend Alan