Me and my ex finished 2weeks ago , he said I can do better and he’s happy on his own atm as he needs to sort his head out and gambling and he just fetches headache and pain. He said I would never be no1 priority and gambling would always take that spot. I’ve struggled for the last 2 weeks but reading people story’s in here is making it easier. We could never do anything as his whole wage would go online gambling said he used gamstop before but he’s figured out how to have a over seas one I know I’ve probably had a lucky escape but I just don’t feel that way atm.Â
If your ex partner didn't want to gamble he would have Gamban installed on all of his electronic devices that would stop him gambling even on abroad websites. You won't be able to make him stop if he doesn't want to do that. Unfortunately it happens all the time in those cases
Him saying that gambling always will be his priority 1 not you it's simply his brain wired with this horrible addiction making him say that.
People do feel sorry for their ex partners family members etc etc who are addicted to this horrible disease but there's only so much of help that people can offer to these addicts. They could seek a professional help and actually want to break this cycle and stop gambling.
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@wbr9jcpn3y thanks for your reply I hope your well, he says he needs help with his head and gambling / debt but wants to do it all by himself and he’s sorry he got me involved, told him I wanted to help but he’s ignoring me. His son isn’t even in his no 1 priority (not my child) as he spent all his wage and has ruined Xmas so he says so does not have anything for him . I have come to the conclusion of he wants to he will and there’s not a thing I can do about it so crying is getting me no where.  X
Wants do to it by himself means he wants to keep gambling.I wouldn't be crying if I was you as you will just damage your mental health and wellbeing because of somebody else's actions.
Keep focused on yourself it doesn't seem that your ex wants to sort his life out yet and sadly you cannot make him.Gamblers mind is usually very selfish we don't think of other people's feelings,emotions all we care about is a next ,,hit'
I would not be waiting for your ex to come back to you currently as it seems that gambling has took over his life at the moment.If he doesn't seek professional help he won't stop.
That's a suggestion that i can tell you from what I am reading from your story.
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Merry Christmas and don't be sad.
Wants do to it by himself means he wants to keep gambling.I wouldn't be crying if I was you as you will just damage your mental health and wellbeing because of somebody else's actions.
Keep focused on yourself it doesn't seem that your ex wants to sort his life out yet and sadly you cannot make him.Gamblers mind is usually very selfish we don't think of other people's feelings,emotions all we care about is a next ,,hit'
I would not be waiting for your ex to come back to you currently as it seems that gambling has took over his life at the moment.If he doesn't seek professional help he won't stop.
That's a suggestion that i can tell you from what I am reading from your story.
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Merry Christmas and don't be sad.
I agree with you.
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@wbr9jcpn3y thank you so much for your reply he’s always said he likes to deal with his problems alone but your reasoning makes so much more sense so thank youÂ
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merry Xmas  x
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