Hi my partner of nearly four yrs a son together of 2 yrs n took on my other 3 kids! He as been lying to me frm day one about his gambling he started of disappearing 20 mins or so on a sat then 8 mouth on when I was pregnant with our 1st son I got told from his sister in law about his past girl friend left him cause he got grands in debt cause of his gambling and then I noticed it more never seen his wages he disappear for hours!! he keeped lending money not paying it bk getting debt letters to his mums I found out when his mum wud say u need to pay ur debts n I realised n then his disappearing got worse I starting thinking he was having an affair n got very low frm it he never show me his fone never proved where he was he sent me out my mind im para when he goes places now n lost holiday money I've had to bail him out when lend money of his mum n cudnt pay it bk he made me miss an important brain scan appointment at hospital cause he was meant to take me but to busy at bet Fred n his took my bank card n my kids money out my bank with out my permission and I've stood by him n cause he came bk n wasn't having an affair I felt relieved so I forgave him then I help him get his own business stated up in April I've been having money go in my bank but gave him my bank card he as lied to wear the money gone and finally I'm nearly at the end n this us cutting a story short lol well today he said he was priceing up a job but I got a gut feel he was lieing cause this morning I found money in the car he was hiding n he went mad at me for going in his car and it was his mums money for something he had to buy for his dad n I sent my kids to see if he was in bet Fred n he was so and he wasn't out pricing up job for work n now I feel so low cause of the lieing I've stood but him n gave him money thinking it wud help n now I know it won't n I I don't know what to do feeling very sad helpless n alone
Hi, I'm new to this website! I have 4 young children and a husband who started gambling probably about 4 years ago and it's got worse as time's gone on. He earns a good salary and last month he blew the lot - ended up borrowing money from his Mum to pay the mortgage by making up some c**k and bull story to her about his wages not being paid!!! This resulted in him self excluding himself from all online betting. Tonight I have found out by checking my online banking that he has opened various online betting accounts in my name and used mine and my childrens bill/food money to fund his habit!!! I really don't think there's anything he would stop at to get his fix. He gets very defensive when I mention the gambling and uses emotional blackmail to make me feel guilty about it. I almost had a nervous breakdown at xmas as he spent all the money we were meant to use for presents, ended up with Mum for a week or so after many promises from him. I know I can't afford to leave him and deep down I do love him but he makes it so hard when he does these things! Sorry to rant, no advice really but at least you know you're not alone feeling like this x
Please don't feel alone there are so many of us in the same boat x
If I look at my situation from an outsiders point of view I know that I would say "leave him" but it is so much easier said than done. It isn't just the emotional turmoil, it's the fact that you end up in debt and unable to start over because of covering for them. I just feel so hopeless, and I can't really talk to anyone because they don't know the situation, I do hope you manage to work things out xxx
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