Looking for support. Uncovered my husband’s gambling 4 days ago. Still reeling

Really sorry to hear about this am an addict and always will be an addict so i have made a decision to remain single very small minorty do actually change and sadly these are rare another women relapsed after 14 years you would think after such amount of time why would go back to gambling the truth is their no actual cure and even though am at 715 days since my last bet im no better then when i was on day 1 in terms of addiction i managed 3 years previously and i did think i have finally cracked it who am i fooling? If u can accept him as an addict for life long is the only soluction here and personally if the shoe was on the other foot i would not accept an addict even though i am one 

Four days ago, I found out my husband has been gambling, and I’m still trying to process everything. It feels like the ground’s been pulled from under me. I started reading more about the industry to understand what drew him to it, and came across betting sites. It helped me see the bigger picture, but emotionally, I’m still really shaken. 

I am at the same stage as you,

found out my husband was gambling 3 years ago. Helped him and we paid off the debt from our house sale.

Just found out 2 weeks ago he's been gambling all along again, feel so broken by it so feel like you that I'd like to speak to people further down the line. 

I feel you, I just found out as well a couple months ago. My wife of 20 yrs still won’t get help even though they admitted they have a problem. 😭 we are about 70k in debt with her gambling. That includes personal loans, her cc’s and borrowing money from family. I should have known something was up when she wanted to pay the bills instead of me paying them from our joint bank account cause that would make her feel like she has more control in our relationship. It was an excuse so she could have control over all our funds, but at the time I thought I was helping her be more confident and letting her have more control.

Basically I just lay in bed when not at work and try to think of what I should do. I think at this point the obvious answer would be to leave being she just won’t get the help and is dragging me mentally and financially down with her. She even acts like she’s the victim, but at the same time can’t say what anyone else has done to cause this. 

She says they understand what they are doing to our future, but still ignore the fact, just like they don’t give a s**t what happens. They say they are lost and feel like everyone is against her or not happy with her. 

i asked how can we fix this, i want to help you get better anyway i can. Then she says idk and shuts me out even more. 
She has even lied to her mom and brother after the brother loaned her some money to pay her bills. Once her brother loaned her the money, then she got that same amount from her mom 2 days later using the same story. 

@pf3wetc2ug hi mate i am really sorry to hear what u are going through i am currently just over two years bet free at my early stage i was exactly same i actually wish my ex left me earlier the lies i use to tell i was so hooked in gambling i was good at being remorseful and make all these promises that this it and i would change yet i would go back and repeat the process again i wasent doing enough i knew i had a problem i got to a stage where i knew how everything yet i would make this promises if i got x amount i would quit the first stage is accountability