I've been with my partner for just over a year, last week we were supposed to move in together, our relationship up until then has been brilliant but in the past month I've noticed that week after week there have been excuses about money, work have made a mistake with wages, I've been taxed too much, I've bought your birthday present. The day before my birthday he told me he had been mugged and all of his money was stolen but after arguments he came clean that he's been gambling and admits he has an addiction, I really don't know what to do I've ended the relationship as people said hell never change and I'll always struggle with money but I'm devastated as we had a really good relationship I need advice from someone who knows about gambling addiction, have made the right decision ending the relationship? I'm heartbroken, any advice would be appreciated. Thank you
Hi Kelsey
Welcome to the Forum. Coping with the consequences of problem gambling can a very difficult and isolating experience.
Have you been to a meeting of Gam-Anon? Gam-Anon is a fellowship of men and women who are husbands, wives, relatives or close friends who have been affected by the gambling problem. You can find more information on them at www.gamanon.org.uk
Discussing your particular concerns with like minded people who have maybe been through some of the same problems might help you clarify your thinking.
We do offer free one to one counselling in some parts of Great Britain. If you want like to find out more, please look on our website under 'Counselling Support' or call the helpline freephone number on 0808 8020 133.
Did you also know that Relate offer counselling services for every type of relationship nationwide. You can find out more information from their website www.relate.org.uk
What you do in this situation is down to you but speaking to a trained counsellor could help you to clarify your decision making.
Best wishes
Rachel.
Bit hard to give advice without all the details
Having an addiction doesn't mean a person can't change. Many people do get a ***** of the addiction and learn to live with it
I'd echo Rachel's advice about checking your decision with someone independent and impartial
Question i have to ask myself daily though is do i want to stop gambling? If he did want to stop maybe there was hope.
Hope you can get to the bottom of this and find resolution
Tri
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