Found out my husband was gambling, he agreed I have full control over finances including his bank account and he has gamban on his phone etc. However, I recently discovered he owed money for C*****e, which his sister loaned him behind my back. I am just so worried he has swapped one addiction for another or that his family will continue to give him money and he will be back gambling. I feel all I do I moan at him about it, I'm even sick of hearing my own voice if I'm honest. I don't know how to get past this and move on x
Hello Samima and Welcome
There is advice and help for you. You do not have to tolerate gambling or any other behaviour which is not acceptable.
The main issue there is people lending to him. This is not part of a proper recovery and gives you no control
The best advice is protect yourself and don't be a shrinking violet about it. He needs reality checks that your relationship is on the line if he doesn't realise what is important in life and reach out for all the help he needs.
I can't see what has been blanked out but it's common for other addictive behaviour to take over as he will be rattling and confused.
It's your decision and nobody is judging you. Can you get some family support and then you will be stronger to make your decisions when you want to
The forum is here and gamcare are on the phone
Best wishes from everyone on the forum
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