Digging a hole

I win over 90% of the time. A lot of times I have hundreds profit on the first spin. I lose because of greed. I'm not saying everyone here should gamble, some people I don't even know why they do because they have high paying jobs and savings and I'm sure they have nice things. I'm poor.. I have a cheap ВЈ80 phone, I sleep in a single bed with an uncomfortable spring mattress, I have an old hd ready Tv I bought for £30 last week, I don't have a car or a driving license, never had a lesson in my life, I have no savings, my job pays alright for what it is fair enough but I'm 26 and don't have much so I gamble to try and get nice things and to help the people I care about. I'm not some rich kid who can gamble loads and get into 20k debt and have my family or whatever bail me out like loads of other people on here.
If it was a guarantee I wouldn't be here, I'd have money and be happy, but it's easily done if you're able to stop. I could win £200 a day easy if I just stopped.
I don't intend to put ideas in people's minds I'm just saying what I want for me personally. I think some people on here have no business gambling period like when they have serious bills to pay and kids to feed but each to their own I know how hard it is to resist so I'm not gonna judge them and get mad like people tend to get with me.

Stopping wouldn't save me, it would make me turn to crime. A normal life isn't for me.. I'm too behind to start from the beginning now, I need to catch up and be where I feel I should be, where other people my age are. I'd rather be a gambling addict who gets depressed occasionally and bounces from job to job than be in prison, because I've been there and done that and it's not the worst place to be no but it gets old fast and I like films to much and I like to see them as soon as they come out at the cinema + I'm a loner, being surrounded by people I don't care for isn't for me.

Look past gambling and think about life as a whole, stopping would send me on a worse path, for now this is the best of two evils.

Hi Jammo, I'm not angry with you, just frustrated. You don't have nice things because you gamble, but you claim to gamble so you can have nice things, its crazy thinking. How much money do you think you have lost gambling in the last year. Enough for a new TV, phone, bed etc.

The reason you have nothing is because of gambling, if I could win £200 a day easily do you think I would bother going to work. Every form of gambling is tipped in favour of the house, you are guaranteed to lose. Casino games, fobt's are all devised to take money off people, its a business.

The only reason you are behind people of your age is due to gambling, you're only 26 with plenty of time to catch up. Keep on as you are and I guarantee you will be in the same position 20 years from now. But I hope things do work out for you.

I won't allow myself to live long enough to be like this in 20 years.

You’re addicted to the process of placing a bet and you’re choosing to keep on doing it (ie using) and to try to justify your choice to keep on using. Your choices, your life. But the only person you’re kidding is yourself.

CW

Maybe, I think I'm more into trying to get money and helping myself and people I care about but we all have our own opinions.

You know best so crack on. Just maybe stop asking for help every time your method fails then turning down every piece of advice you're offered?

Just because you're offered numerous bits of advice it doesn't mean anything, if 382 people advised you to kill someone would you? Give me advice that I believe will help and I'll take it..
And am I asking for help? Or am I just sharing and reading other people's posts because it helps me.

Don't know why you're all so emotional and hurt because someone doesn't want to ban for a bit then keep coming back when they mess up. When one of you hasn't gamble for a year straight let me know, please.. lead by example.

You'll get there mate

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As I’ve said before, you can’t really expect anyone on this forum to approve or support any of your methods/theories. You’re on the wrong forum if that’s what you think. You have to be realistic in your expectations mate.

There are many people on here that have had several relapses in the past but have gone on to achieve a year, 2 years, 3 years and beyond of no gambling and improved their lives drastically.

There are others, like myself, who are trying and do ocassionaly fall off the wagon from time to time. But we pick ourselves up and we go again. We get newer blocks in place, we try different things, hoping that one day, we find a way to totally abstain from gambling.

Please don’t knock the people that do relapse. That’s unfair mate.

Totally agree with last post, I too have had more relapses than I can remember but as Einstein put it...You never fail until you stop trying..he also defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Bottom line is you'll never win in the long run ....I've tried all sorts and failed but will keep on trying for myself and my son's future....I'm now seeing counsellor, going to my first GA meeting tomorrow and have got assistance to help with my debts from Step change.....the irony is I'm a debt advisor. My focus is tomorrow..then the day after...am determined to beat this but at end of the day you've got to want it. Year's of gambling have left me with bad depression..anxiety ... the gambling feeds off the depression. For me also it was admitting I'm a c**P gambler.

adam123 wrote:

You'll get there mate

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This has probably been the most helpful comment I've received. Thanks Adam. I'm going back into work tonight, a bit nervous after taking a week off with very little contact as to why but hopefully people don't ask too many questions, just want to get rid of my loan ASAP.

I don't want people's support if they don't want to give it is rather they just didn't hate. What's fair about knocking me because I'm not choosing your method that doesn't work..
I yo-yo back and forth just like everyone else on here, we're not that different.

All it takes is a lotto win or some kind of promotional win and then maybe in the long run I will be the winner.
I'm sure Einstein said a lot of clever things but the results aren't always the same when I gamble so yeah..

I'm back at work and I'm just gonna work and see what happens.. maybe I'll update you all in a month saying I've paid my loan and I have great credit and some money set aside.

I wish you guys the best, legit hope you don't gamble for a year and can share that because that's positive and helpful.

I haven’t gambled for over a year...Does that mean you will listen to me?

Go to GA...Read all about yourself in the little orange book & work the program for a year then come back & read this nonsense you have written! This pain stops when you accept you are sick & you can’t do it your way...We cannot win because we cannot stop! You can win 90% of the time but that’s still giving away a tenner everytime you play through £100...Your lunch time “wins” are a £30 telly & a single mattress! I understand you just want to gamble, I lived & breathed that for years...Wanting to win the lottery so I could be happy, gamble without recourse, but that’s just addiction talking. You won’t fix bad credit in a month but stay clean & work hard & you may find that people on here that aren’t doing it your way know better!

Hi,

I apologise, I haven't read all the posts. Forgive me if I say the wrong thing. I'm 43, I'm guessing you are a bit younger? For 42 years of my life I knew gambling was causing me massive problems. But I wasn't ready to stop. Up until then I had ended up homeless twice. Maybe due to depression more than my addiction but I want to explain how you have to get to the point where you understand gambling can know longer be a part of your life. I think you have a belief that without money, life isn't worth living? That isn't true and I think this is where all these wanna be gangsters in London who are killing eachother are also going wrong. I'm not Jesus or Mr perfect, but you will realise if you hang in there that there are many reasons to go on in poverty. I'll never have a high paying job but I appreciate the little things in life. Maybe i'm deluded or enlightened? I'm only 3 months free from gambling, I honestly believe that if I ever gamble again I'm finished. I went to a gambling rehab, it didn't really work out for me but one guy was like you, saying he won on a regular basis, he was deluded too. He wouldn't accept he had a probem. Do some research on lottery winners that have won hundreds of millions and still end up broke. You have a sickness like me, like all of us. You may not be ready to accept that. Think about it buddy.

Telling you what you want to hear isn’t support, it’s enabling. Killing with “kindness”.

The tough love that you’ve been getting is exactly that: tough love. And in real life, tough love is as difficult for the person loving toughly as for the person being loved toughly. Tough love involves making a decision based on what’s right, not what’s easy or comfortable. Tough love decisions are always made in the face of opposition and turmoil.

The real secret of happiness is not having enough to be happy, it’s being happy with what you have.

Your life, your choices, how you make them is your responsibility. You don’t need the approval of anyone else on this forum. Or do you?

CW