hi, I've never joined a forum before but I have no clue what else to do.
I am not a gambler but my partner is and i am completely overwhelmed by the extent of his problem and the lengths he will go to to lie and manipulate me to get money from our account.
He knows he's an addict but refuses to get help because he says only he can stop, I can't get through to him that he needs support to help him stop.
I am 7 months pregnant and love him so much but really can't carry on like this but I end the relationship I feel like I'm abandoning him.
I just don't know what I can do to help him. I've tried so hard but nothing works. I feel so alone 🙁
Hi danni it's tough when you're pregnant and they're gambling, no support, no closeness they're just angry and withdrawn. So try and stop his access to the bank account. If he won't hand over get your name taken off it and open account just for you. Get support for you, call helpline. This is time for you and baby. Get help from family if you can. There are many things you can do but this is not the time when you're pregnant, you need to be calm and sort stuff out for baby not him. I would recommend telling someone who can help, I asked my father in law when my husband was begging me to get a loan for him. I don't know if you have that support. Keep talking on here, call the helpline, get support.
Dear Danni
We're sorry to hear you're going through this. Thank you for taking the step to ask for help. The reality is that there is nothing you can do to get him to stop. He needs to realise for himself that he has a problem, and commit to getting help. You need to protect yourself financially and concentrate on your own peace of mind. We can offer you support in the times ahead. Why not call our helpline on 0808 8020 133 to talk it over? We may also be able to offer you free counselling. There's also an organisation called Gam-Anon who support families and friends of compulsive gamblers.
Whatever you decide to do, don't shoulder this burden alone.
Take care,
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