Hi Foxcub 🙂
Well dome for everything you have done so far.
Im the partner of an ex gambler - I knew nothing but a year on we are still trying to make it work but it is difficult.
Be there for each other.
Will take a long time for trust to be rebuilt if you stay together, but most importantly you’ve made the first steps to recovery.
Good luck with everything x
I'm sorry that happened to you. You are so brace for persevering through this.
I want things to work and I feel I know that gambling is over for me- telling people was all the shame I need for a lifetime.
I hope he can forgive me either time, that I can be proven trustworthy again through transparency and maybe he can even be proud of me again one day.
I feel like with each day he won't speak to me and I'm told to stay away from the house, that becomes less and less likely. But who knows?
I deserve this though.
He will be feeling so many emotions, maybe he just needs time to digest it all and think about what has happened - I’m sure it’ll be a huge shock.
I had a serious breakdown when I found out, just give it time and be patient.
Maybe in time you could go to counselling together and talk it all though with a professional once you’ve had your own counselling.
Regardless if what happens though, you need to continue on your journey.
Really do wish you all the best, keep posting x
Have you managed to stop Lou Lou? Thank you. All the positivity is making me feel I can do this and that I just want to move forwards. I've now told another friend and I'm with her now. It's actually like therapy just telling the truth. I've lied so much in the past to cover it up Lou Lou and have done horrendous things. I could have kept doing that, kept lying, kept borrowing. But it feels good to have laid it all out. ope you're doing well on you journey Lou xxx
Hi Foxcub :))
With reference to the post above ..........." Of course you can do this " it's just a question of wanting too more than you want to place another bet and your right in what you say about telling others being like therapy , I mentioned in a post to another diarist the other day how it now gives me a kind of kick when I speak of my addiction 🙂 , it's also suprising just how many people open up to you about something in their life that has troubled them .
Be proud of yourself for what you've achieved so far , all the right thing's have been put in place to protect yourself and at the moment that's all you can do.
The tears will stop I promise and you do learn to forgive yourself over time but the mess we create doesn't happen overnight, so it stand's to reason that we can't wave a magic wand where everything return's to normal in a short while .
As someone much wiser once told me early when I arrived here " It's ok to look back but try not to stare " .
Your relationship hopefully can be saved and mended over time and maybe not hearing anything just yet means he's trying to come to term's with what he now know's and how he want's to go forward with this ? .
4 yrs ago I had that difficult conversation and it wasn't something I would ever like to repeat but that being said just as you have done honesty set me free , She's still with me and I've not gambled since :)) .
I wish you well
Alan :))
That's so amazing to hear you have made it through your journey together. We talked tonight and he is willing for me to come back to the house tomorrow night and we are going to make a plan together. I cannot believe after all I've done to him that he is willing to give me another chance. I am going to counselling tomorrow and hope this will be positive too.
there is a long way to go. But I will get there. It is so incredible that I might have some help on that journey emotionally.
Hoping to be in the same place as you Alan. I'm determined x
Very true. I have gone through everything to check I haven't missed it. Handed over the credit report login and full access to anything he needs to see aswell. Only way to do this I think- no half-truths!
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