Hi all, This is my first post here, I have known for sometime that my partner was a "past" gambler and known for as long that this was a lie. On Tuesday myself and his daughters confronted him and he held his hands up we have been to support him at his first GA meeting tonight. I have taken over his finances, we have put Gamstop on his phone as online gambling was the biggest issue, going to do self exclusion and close his bank account tomorrow. I am just feeling a little overwhelmed and isolated. His gambling is serious talking thousands in the last 3 months alone and the debts this has created I am still unpicking. While I am glad that it is out in the open I know seem to be so frightened about the future the reality of what this means is hitting me and I would love to hear from other partners who have been in this place. He is so confident now that he can stop, he doesn't want to lose me or the kids but my worry is that 6 months time he will get complacent and we will be back to square one. I am also struggling with feeling guilty that I have enabled his behaviour to a degree with both money and covering up what I knew was going on but clouldn't prove. Thank you for reading.
Hi - I am a gambler, sorry to hear about your situation, the best advice I would give you is to speak to stepchange as soon as possible re the debts they can advise the best course of financial action, as you need to ensure you cover you and the family position first. Hope it all works out for you.
Hi he should speak to stepchange, it's his debt. He should find a GA meeting. You can get help and support at a gamanon meeting. Trust me lying and ignoring it, covering up their mess just prolongs the agony. You need as much help as him. This addiction is forever and you need to safeguard finances. No bailouts, there has to be consequences to this behaviour.
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