Hi all.
I have been a member in here for sometime but have not posted for a while. My life has gone downhill rapidly this year due to my gambling getting more out of control.
I finally owned up to my parents about my debt of 18.5k last week. I couldn't bring myself to tell them where it stemmed from. They were amazing,within a few days they'd provided me with all the money to payoff my credit cards and pay day loans. I paid off 10k. The other 8k on a credit card never got paid as I gambled it. Since then I have gambled a further 2.3k on my card again. I am now back in 10k of debt. I can manage the payments on these but the guilt is crippling me and there's no way I can tell them what I've done.
It's so obvious how much of a viscous circle you can land yourself in through making foolish decisions,feeling stressed/depressed about it which in turn brings on another gambling spree.
I must accept my losses and now focus on ways to keep myself occupied in order to not gamble.
In a pretty low place right now after feeling so much better last week following my parents generosity.
I must never gamble again.
I think the problem is made worse when we are only half honest. If u had admitted as to why, I'm sure they would have paid the debt direct so that you had no access. It's done now and you need to move forward. Don't try to win it back. U still have less debt than u had previously and u can use.this as incentive to clear.the rest. If the repayments are too high, arrange an affordable repayment plan. U will feel better seeing your debt come down x.
Hi rightchoice
I am a recovering CG.
If you really want to help yourself, you should tell your parents. They have helped you with your debt, but in doing so, they have enabled you to gamble. You and I both know that wasn't their intention. As jw1976 said, if you had been honest with your parents, the debts would have been paid off in a different manner, and most importantly, they would have guided you to GA or counselling.
One of the issues with us gamblers is that we have to understand that there are consequences to our gambling. One of those consequences is the debt that we usually accrue. Some of us will be paying back debt for the rest of our lives, so be it, we caused the damage. Because you have been 'bailed out' of your debt, you have not felt the true ramifications of your gambling. This is not good for you.
Get to GA meetings or counselling.Tell your parents. The sooner you are upfront with them, the sooner you will be able to address your gambling problem. You won't have to hide anything from them anymore.
Yes, you must never gamble again. You can do anything else but gamble. The choice is yours. A happy future, or a future that will provide only misery.
Best wishes
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