I relapsed a couple of times since my last post. I can go weeks without gambling. Then blow a £1000 in 1 night. April 1st was the last night of it. Last night I broke down in tears to my dad. I could barely get my words out. I explained that I need help and that I gambled most of my savings away. He is struggling to talk to me. I feel ashamed and honestly don't know what to do. He broke down in tears this morning...the first time I have ever seen him cry. Couldn't explain how bad I felt. I dont think things will ever be the same with us again. My mum is going to find out tomorrow but I just don't know how I will cope. I hate myself for what I have done and need support to help me through it. My dad has taken my bank cards and spare cash and is limiting me to £10 a day. I keep receipts to show what I'm spending my money on.
How could I be so weak?! I just couldn't control myself.
I hope this is my first day of my gambling free life.
Well done for seeking help and at last admitting it's a problem. Hurting those we love, can continue as part of this horrible addiction but you have done the best thing by telling your dad
dad. I.would imagine his.hurt.would be much worse if.he found out from other sources and was never given the opportunity to try and help. Ultimately, only you can manage this addiction but handing over your finances is the best way to start. Good luck and keep recording your progress x.
Huge well done for admitting you have a problem , truth is gambling will always win because we can never stop and that is why you have lost so much money.
Ask yourself why you gamble and then tackle the reasons why , for most people them become bored in everyday life and look for a thrill in gambling , however I was hooked on the roulette and came very close to taking my own life.
Your dad will be in shock and it will affect him much as it does you , start a recovery diary and keep us all posted on your progress , you will get daily support from other members on here and maybe even consider ringing gamcare who can point you in the right direction too , they can get you free counselling local to where you live 1 hour per week.
Just remember you are not on your own and there is help available.
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Hi World90
I am a recovering CG.
Your father wants only what is best for you. He will be second guessing himself...how did I miss it, etc. You have done the best thing by telling him. Now you can get the help that you will need to help you recover.
GA for you, Gamanon for your parents. The help is there providing you want it.
Best wishes
Despite the trauma it's caused, you've done the right thing. I've been in that exact situation myself. They've seen a side to you that they never knew existed and they don't like it, an understandable reaction. It's difficult for a non-gambler to relate to what gambles do and why they do it.
It's a cliche but we all know that trust takes a long time to build and can be ruined in a second. You will have to rebuild that trust and it doesn't happen overnight.
You can emerge from this a better person though. All the best.
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