I can’t do it

Mate you did 3 years without a bet this is amazing should be extremely proud of yourself their people on here are lucky to even go a day without a bet and others just realising they have a problem in their 50s 60s and from my experience the longer you gamble the harder it is to get out of this however all is not lost no matter how deep you are in this addiction things can change for the better first step is admitting gambling is causing you problem so you are already ahead then alot of people, blocks are vital and on going recovery whether it Ga counciling or attending this site regularly can help this is an addiction it not case of just stopping understanding the reasons why you gamble is helpful however saying all this the addiction just doesnt whether you gamble or you dont u have choice to stop feeding it with time it gets easier as the urgues settle however urgues can come later on in life so the relapse rate is quite high you have a choice to put yourself in recovery Ga works for alot of people and make not work for everyone but the results are their im interested in facts and if someone really wants to stop gambling it can be done its like any other addiction im beginning to finanally understand i wasent put enough time and effort towards my recovery i wasent prepared to sacrifice i would blame everything under sun why i relapsed yet i wasent making these changes which i am doing now at the end of the day understanding i have this problem i cant blame the industry nor people which i was doing before i still have a choice and if i feel vulnerable then i need ask for support it a case of not placing the next bet 

@tazman I feel like to pay all the people  I have to pay gambling is the only way out. How do I get help, I want to stop gambling I hate gambling but I have no other way of getting all this money to pay them

@k9gupos1be 

Hi Junior,

This is the exact mindset I had at the end of my problem gambling, unfortunately there is no 'quick fix' and coming clean to friends/family you owe money too, and creditors that are chasing you for money is the only way.  If you speak to Stepchange Debt charity they can start to build a plan for you on how to clear the debt each month, and make payments more manageable to your creditors.  As far as friends and family - I promise you will feel 100x better coming clean, explaining the situation, and letting them know you're getting help and that the money will be paid back each month until debts are cleared, I know it seems scary but the relief you feel after getting this off your chest is unbelievable. Hope this helps, and good luck! L 

You have to take responsibility for your actions, it will be the hardest thing you will ever do in your life, you will lose their trust (for a while) but I promise you they will be more supportive than you think.

I stopped gambling 6 months ago, I stole from my partner, my mum and my own daughter, I stole from the company I work for thousands, one morning I woke up and couldn't see a way out that was it for me I couldnt go on, but I cam clean I called my partner and told him I had been stealing from work and that I was going to own up and I did, my boss was so supportive he didnt call the police he didnt sack me, he kept me on on the proviso I got help and paid back what I owed out of my wage, I went to see my mum, just as supportive only bothered about me and getting me help, my daughter too and my partner has been my rock.  I am not saying everyone is this lucky, but I think people are more understanding than we think, this is an addiction an illness, it takes your soul and every part of the person you think you are, but we can fight it, just not alone.  Even if you are not forgiven, if they do not support you, you know you have told the truth and that is the best thing for you.