Hi,
I've just joined as I'm doing my best to support my friend. He wants to stop & is so determined. We have a plan that he will transfer his money for me to look after when he gets paid. Its all arranged & he asks me if I will but then doesn't transfer it over. He then gambles it away & feels so desperately guilty after.
It breaks my heart to see him like this as I think the world of him. I've promised to support him & that we are in it together.
If anybody can please give me any advice when supporting a loved one I will be so grateful.Â
Thanks in advance
The strong urge to gamble makes him not carry out what he agreed with you.Sadly sometimes people are NOT ready to stop.You have to understand its not your problem its not your fault he Gambles he has to take respsonsibilty for his own actions
Thats the thing with addiction u can have all the support in the world but if u are not ready to make changes nothing will happen i had 0 support from friends and family nobody understood it as an addiction i had to seek help on my own accord even then i wasent completely doing anything to change my actions i kept justifying gambling for various reasons in my case i was aware it was possible to quit has many people at Ga had done many years without a bet my issue was i didnt take the severity of this addiction for many years i was chassing my losses back i had this plan in my head if i got X amount back i could quit when ever i wanted it only my last relapse is what woke me up has i got myself into debt something i never thought i would do i am 854 days bet free i dont believe its coincidence i also realise this addiction stays so i cant get complacent which i have had first hand experience awareness is key to having any success its the urgues which are the issue i have also learnt these urgues pass with time as they come so it is possible like they say anything possible if you put your mind to it this includes addiction my progress is only recognised on forums like thisÂ
@ypqtfao731 he says he wants to stop & I believe he actually wants to. Its just getting to the step of getting that help
@tazman I'm sorry you didn't have support from anyone but very well done for seeking help & overcoming the addiction. Stay strong, a day at a time.
@ki08u4yrmb thanx mate i appreciate it still possible i am around 855 days bet free and my life is completely different things can get better i am a completely different person now
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